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What your tears are really doing for you....

11/30/2018

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Good morning my beautiful friends…I hope you are all enjoying the last day of November.

The other day I wrote about happy tears, and today I came across this inspiration about tears; don’t deny your tears any longer.

Tears are such a freeing experience when you allow them to flow.  As I sit here really thinking about when I cry, I really do feel better after.  I feel like I have released stagnate emotions that need to be forced out with a good cry.  It’s almost like I am re-inspired to deal with the situation at hand. 

I am thinking back with situations in my life where I lost it, crying uncontrollably and feeling silly when I was done.  Almost like, I am too old to be crying.  I have even let some people tell me I should not be crying and to quit being so dramatic.  When I look at those people, I actually feel sorry for them because they are not able to express their own emotions.  It’s that saying “what you don’t like in yourself, you get angry at the person in front of you”…however, “it’s what you deny in yourself, you make not like in someone else who is able to express themselves.”

We truly are mirrors with eye balls and emotions.  We need to learn how to express our feelings and emotions, so we can teach our children it is okay.  I am so grateful I have shown my son it is okay to cry and show his emotions.  He is someone who is able to be patient and loving when he is around people who express their emotions.  Sometime we all need a good cry.  Men in general have not been given the permission to cry…It is time you guys give yourself the permission to cry.  Men have been taught to be tough and deal with whatever comes up…however, a lot of men don’t know how to release their emotions and become angry and violent.

We are at a time in life where everything is the same and yet very different from long ago.  People are becoming tolerant and less judgmental, and yet we are still told to quick crying and deal with whatever is upsetting us.  It’s time that we start to give our own self permission to express our emotions so we can have the gift of learning and growing.  We will be able to see different perspectives of any given situation if we just allow ourselves to express our emotions and feelings.

My friends today learn how to let the tears flow…no matter what the situations, happy or sad, let the tears flow.  You will experience freedom when you do.

Have an amazing day.
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Just Rita Real Talk


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Happy Tears...

11/28/2018

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Good morning my friends…Happy Wednesday!!!

Have you ever just cried for no reason and you realized they are happy tears?  That is what I am feeling right now.   It seems like no matter what we go through it always turns out for our highest good, even though it may not always feel that way.

My life has taken so many difficult twists and turns, and I can sit here honestly and say “I would not change a thing”.  It is such an amazing feeling to realize how many extraordinary people are in my life.  I think about my son and realize he is right where he needs to be, with an extraordinary woman who loves him just as much as he loves her.  I can even be on friendly terms with my ex-husband, which makes life so much easier.

Everything that has gone on in my life has all been for this moment, right here and right now.  I sit here in a pool of love and admiration for myself, because I never gave up.  I kept moving forward, even when it was the worst of times, I kept going. 

It really does not matter how bleak things look and feel, most of the time we create it to be worse than what it is.  Now, saying that, I know there are great tragedies that people have gone through, I included; but it has all made us who we are.  We can help in ways that others cannot, we can make people see they will get through their tough times as well.  When one sacrifices, it’s because they will help someone who really needs it in their future. 

Look at all the things you have been through…look at all the people you have been able to help including your own family because of what you have been through.  It is all life lessons for us, so we can always help others move through their lives.  We are given many blessings that come in horrible, terrifying packages, but what we teach is extraordinary lessons. 

I look at my own life; I have made some of the toughest decisions that at the time burned bridges and hurt like hell.  However, looking back, best decisions for my life and my son’s life; I would not change one thing.  My son has turned out to be one of the most caring, loving and patient men I could hope to find for me.  It is when we look back and see how it all works; at 50 years old, I am starting to see how it all makes sense.

My friends start to see your life differently.  Don’t get hung up on what is happening right now, it is only temporary; but the rewards are great when you see the big picture. 

I love each and every one of you.  Happy Holidays…
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Just Rita Real Talk

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Dysfunction...How do we change it?

11/26/2018

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Good morning my friends…I hope you are finding yourselves safe and at peace.  I hope your Thanksgiving was amazing and full of love and family.

Today’s quote is all about Family Dysfunction…this is the time of year when it really kicks up into gear.  The holidays seem to make it more prevalent than any other part of the year.  It is almost like the stress of the holidays really takes a toll on people and creates drama no matter where you turn; not even I am free of it.

I grew up in a house hold where family dysfunction was always the worst at the holidays, for some reason the fights were the worst.  When you try to keep it all together and hide the emotions, you add so much stress to yourself; you may not even realize it.  You try to make everything perfect, anticipate everyone’s needs, and try to keep the pressure at a dull roar, but for some reason the fighting will come out.
 
It takes one person to stop the madness.  It takes one person to not react and only lovingly respond.  It takes one person to say “I love you”.  It takes one person to say this is not how it is going to go.  It takes one person to change their behavior so someone else can start to change theirs.

One person can make all the difference in the world, if the one person chooses.  However, the choice is a huge decision; it does not come lightly.  You are literally deciding to take what comes to you, so the others can make a change or calm down.  Sometimes, it will take a strong person to be the sounding board, so your loved one can get out all the deep rooted emotions that are erupting.  It is not an easy spot to be in; however you will be making changes in your life, along with everyone else around you.

I have truly learned to be the person who wants others to be a peace; I can’t sit by and watch anyone suffer.  I will be the one who will take one for the team, so you can get to the root of what is truly bothering you.  Sometimes I am left wounded, but the love I have for my family and friends is worth it. 

What are you going to do in your life?  Are you ready to be the one standing in front of the flames, so you can change yourself and the people around you?  Will you be the example that everyone else can follow?  These are amazing questions; think about it…what is your answer?

Today be the change in your life that you want to see around you.  Allow this part of the year to be the best part you have experienced.  Allow all the things you have learned throughout the year be taught to everyone around you. 

Have an amazing day my friends.
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Just Rita Real Talk


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Start Living Your Own Life...Don't WAIT...

11/20/2018

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Good morning my friends…I hope you are all finding yourselves well this beautiful crisp morn. 

We are right on the cusp of Thanksgiving, which means that the Holidays are definitely upon us.  We are all scrambling to make everything perfect and end the year better than we did last year.  We start to think about what we did not accomplish and how we never get what we want.  We start to beat ourselves up for all the missed opportunities and adventures we did not say yes too. 

Why is it that we are so hard on ourselves every day of every year?  Why can’t we just one time realize how far we have come and how much we have actually accomplished?  Why do we measure ourselves up to all the perceived failures we have had?

Think about these questions for a minute…Why do we?  Who taught us how to loath so much about ourselves?  Who put the bar so high that it is difficult to achieve the standards in our life? 

All the answers reside in our own self; we have taught our own self we are not good enough to do something on our own, we must follow others.  We have our own special gifts and talents; even though someone else has done something it does not mean we can only follow others.  We have the ability to pave our own way.  There is more than one way to do any given thing; we just have to have the courage to do it our way.

Once we start to live on our own terms and not everyone else’s terms, we will be truly living our own lives.  We don’t have to wait, we can start living right now; calling our own shots and making our own choices and sticking to what we want. 

It’s time for us to start looking at what it is that we want in our lives and what we want to create.  We need to quit listening to everything that does not fall into our plan.  We all have our own ways of living…let’s quit judging and start doing what is for our own highest good.

Don’t wait til tomorrow, START RIGHT NOW!!!

Have an amazing day my friends.
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Just Rita Real Talk


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Giving yourself permission may not be an easy task, but a must!!!

11/19/2018

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Good morning my friends…I hope each and every one of you is having an amazing Monday.

Today’s inspiration is so important to me; I had to give myself permission to be however I wanted…that was not an easy task for me.

We sometimes find ourselves always looking for permission to do whatever it is that we want to do.  Most of us never realize we don’t need permission from someone, who we need permission from is ourselves.  Now, when I say this, I get we have families…I can hear the arguments now; but, we are always our own person.  We need to give ourselves permission to be happy even with our families.

We are all here for a reason, a journey that most of us forget about.  We feel that once we are married with children our lives no longer have the right to pursue our passions.  That is not true…we should still pursue our passions, because, we will be teaching our children to always go after your dreams. 
We don’t have to wait for our children to get older, or any other circumstance that would allow us to give our self, permission to live.  

When I finally decided to divorce, get my own place and live on my own terms; there was years of torment before those decisions.  I was waiting for permission from my son, my friends; I did not realize I could give myself permission to be happy.  I knew that I would be disappointing a lot of people, never mind that I was always disappointed.

This is not uncommon unfortunately; most of us deny ourselves happiness because of who we may hurt.  Most of us spend the rest of our lives being miserable and blaming others for what we were not able to achieve.  Start saying yes to yourself; the details will work themselves out. 

Don’t live your life not being responsible for every yes you denied yourself.  Start living your life and give yourself permission to live.   Don’t worry about what others think or say; we all have a journey here on earth, saying yes is part of the journey.  Be responsible in how you proceed but say yes.  Teach your children no matter what, say yes.  Live your life and be happy, when your happy so is everyone else around you for your highest good.  If they are not, you have some work to do.

Have a great day my friends…
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Just Rita Real Talk  


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Life is an amazing journey too your true self...

11/16/2018

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Good morning my friends…I hope you are all finding yourselves well.

I came across this quote today on Facebook…Thank you Terri Wilson for sharing the quote; “I traveled through madness to find me”. 

It is such a beautiful quote and deep meaning quote for me.  I have been on this journey my whole life, and where I am today; I couldn’t be happier.  I am finally discovering who my true self is.  Now, I am not saying do what I did, what I am saying is; start to give yourself the time and love to discover your true self.  Don’t let anyone tell you NO or You are Crazy. 

We are all on our own journey, even though we are with our families.  Each and every one of us has to discover our true potential and what it is that we are here to learn and share.  We have very special gifts each and every one of us, and if we don’t discover what our gifts are; we are never truly happy.

It is okay to have a family and take care of yourself at the same time.  When you set the standards for yourself, everyone and everything will start to fall into place.  You will also be setting limitations, boundaries for people and teaching your loved ones to do the same.

When we start to really look at our own life, we can make adjustments, and our families will start to learn from us and do the same.  We are teaching by example and helping our families, our children learn that we can be different from everyone else.  That we can be very powerful in the way we choose to live our lives and how we are treated.

I want to leave you with one more thought; everything you have ever been through has gotten you where you are today.  Don’t wish for something to have changed; you went through what you need to learn to grow.  Congratulate yourself, celebrate yourself, and love yourself for being who you are today.
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Have an amazing day my friends…

Just Rita Real Talk


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Secret Sister...I love to RECEIVE!!!

11/15/2018

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Good morning my beautiful friends…It feels so amazing to start writing again.  I love sharing my life and growing in the process.

Last week I said YES to Secret Sister on Facebook.  It seems harmless; you are sending one gift and receiving whatever you receive.  However, people on Facebook are such a stand for what’s right, and scams, and anything else that is going on; it does not leave much for just living life.

This Secret Sister is inspiring to me, whether or not I get something in return; I know I am giving love and happiness to someone.  When did we all become so cynical, that when doing something kind turns into a scam?  I feel like we are all going through so much in our lives, that we need a little gift now and then to perk us right back up. 

I sent out my Secret Sister gift last Friday and asked who wanted to play with me.  I had such a response of “I’m In”; I did not care if I got anything or not.  Knowing that people will be receiving from someone they may not know, to me, is so inspiring.  It truly warms my heart. 
Today, we don’t receive.  When it is our time to get something in return for all that we put out into the Universe, we see it as a scam.  Isn’t that something?  Instead of saying, YES, THANK YOU, I will receive it…we say NO…SCAM…DON’T Do IT…and we take pleasure from everyone else.  We even tell people who are secretly desperate for love in return, don’t do it…and we guilt and shame them for participating.

We all have our struggles, and it’s nice to receive once in a while.  How great is it to come home to a gift next to a pile of bills.  It makes the bills seem all that much easier to deal with.  I received my first gift.  I felt so GREAT!!!  I felt like someone took the time and thought about me as they were choosing for me, thinking about me as they put my name and address on the envelope, and they are continually thinking about me and wondering how I liked the gift that they chose for me.  How amazing is that?

Life can be so hard, we are at the beginning of the holidays and it is such a stressful time.  Why not receive while you are busy giving.  Why look at it as if someone is taking advantage of you.

Today, receive…receive all the goodness life has to offer.  Say yes, to everyone who wants to give to you.  Let me know how it works out for you, I am looking forward to hearing from you. 

Thank you, Secret Sister, for my gift.  I love it!!!
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Just Rita Real Talk


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Go To BED!!! WAKE UP!!!

11/14/2018

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​Good afternoon my friends…I hope you are all finding yourselves well.

Do you ever get up in the morning really early wide awake, and then you are like its way too early I am going back to sleep only to find yourself more exhausted?

I did the exact thing this morning…Monday I found myself awake at 3:30 am and stayed up; my day was great.  Today, same thing but I forced myself to sleep only to get up feeling more tired than ever.  I am here doing my thing at work but feel like I am still in bed.

So, I decided to do my Angel Writing and figure out the situation; the situation is I need to get up when my eyes are open.  No more trying to go back to sleep.  First reason why you would wake up really early is to have clarification on something you are dealing with.  Second reason, you have gotten your rest and you are inspired to actually do something.  So get up and do it.

To many times we are missing opportunities because we are fighting to stay a sleep when we don’t need to be.  If you are an early to bed person, you don’t need to sleep late; so when your eyes open, get up.

You will find yourself doing things that you are surprised you are doing, and at the end of the day you will feel fantastic.  Quit putting yourself into positions where you will find yourself saying; “I wish I had just gotten up”!  That will give you great ammunition to beat yourself up.  Start to break those patterns.
Also, I looked at my horoscope today, and it said to break through those emotional patterns that keep you stuck in the past.  That my friend; is eye opening.  I have kept myself stuck so many times repeating the same thing over; and today I got my message to stop.  I felt great all day on Monday, so I would have felt great today.

With the time change, it is hard to figure the sleep pattern out.  You may find yourself ready for bed early, so go.  However, don’t fight to stay a sleep, wake up and start moving.  If you are late to going to bed, start going at a reasonable time.  You will be glad that you did. 

Have an amazing day my friends…
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Just Rita Real Talk

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Discovering Emotional Wounds to money...

11/13/2018

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Good morning my beautiful friends…what an amazing day it is. 

Last night I met with my dear friend and business partner Tiffany Patterson who is absolutely amazing with Young Living Oils.  Tiffany helps people release emotional energies with her oils; she is helping me release emotional energies around money. 
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So yesterday, was a massive day of growth; I discovered I am afraid of men, and then I discovered how I have been holding myself back financially because of emotions tied around money and men. 

It’s amazing how we experience life and it affects so many areas in our lives.  We don’t even know until we decide enough is enough and we start to take our lives head on.  For me I have grown so much, I have gotten through so many things in my life and yet I still hold myself prisoner.  As I continually dive into what stops me, I have found out so many things about myself.

I have had strong men in my life put me down and have tremendous power over me; even when they are no longer in my life.  As I was with Tiffany working on my emotional blocks towards money, I found that my recent ex-husband treated me like a bad child, and I had a lot of shame around money and the mistakes (learning lessons) I had experienced.  When I felt that shame in my chest I could not believe the hold it had on me.  Then we did the exercise a 2nd time, my first husband came up…and I had a heavy brick in my chest for being such a drain on him; even though he caused us so much money with all his stuff; I still took it all as if it were my fault.  The 3rd time we did the exercise my father who raised me came up with a deep sadness and pain that went right through my heart into my back…knowing that he did not think I could handle my own finances and took it over when I was just learning was devastating.  Being told you are stupid and you can’t handle it was not the way I took as a good learning experience.

I really got to look at deep rooted emotions that have been holding me back; who was I to be able to have financial freedom and everything I have ever wanted if I was a bad child, a terrible drain, and completely incompetent to handle my finances.
Today, I feel amazing, moving through those emotions I feel free; I feel like today is a new day.  Driving into work today, I saw snow-flakes and blue sky…it was as if the magic around me has finally been unleashed.  My friends…Do the work on your-self.  Finally set your whole world free so you can enjoy every moment of it. 

I love you and I wish all of you a very magical day.

Just Rita Real Talk


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Discovering your fears through Angel Writing

11/12/2018

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Good afternoon my friends…it has been crazy these past few months; so much learning and growing.

Today I am at work and I had to deal with a situation that wasn’t bad, thank goodness but could have been.  I realized today that I am actually afraid of men.  I am afraid of a particular demeanor of a specific type of man.  I realized that I have always had some sort of man if my life who has been mentally, physically and emotional abusive.  I have always been a fighter, but now that I am on my own and I don’t have to fight for myself; I found myself terrified in a situation that could have been potentially bad. 

The fright on my face and the adrenaline running through my veins was intense.  When it was over, I started to do my Angel Writing; I asked why I was so afraid?  Normally, I am a tough girl ready to take on the world, but when I have been out of that kind of fighting situation; I found myself actually terrified.  I realized how afraid of men I really am.

I have been divorced since July, but the marriage has been over for years.  My friends and my children keep asking me if I am going to date or have I met anyone?  I keep saying that I am not interested, I want to find myself and figure out what I am all about.  But today the answer is “I am afraid of men, and I don’t want to deal with them”.  As I continued to write I understood my situation, however, I now have to confront my fears.  I would rather be alone then be with another man who would only hurt me one more time. 

Here I am, in a time of my life when anything is possible and I just discovered I am terrified of men.  I do however have all the tools I need to make sure I choose wisely for myself.  I have all the experience I need to stay away from who is not good for me and be with someone who is.  I know to be careful and not just be with anyone.  I am very happy being with just myself so it’s not like I am desperate to have someone with me.  This is the point of my life when I get to choose and not be afraid.  It’s time for me to confront the fears and push through them. 

I am forever grateful for the gifts I possess; channeling Angels.  I am able to write and communicate in a way that helps me see the perspective to help me move forward.  It is such an amazing tool to keep me on tract and experiencing all the wonderful opportunities in my life.  Being able to discover things about myself and take them on confidently is amazing.  I find myself happier than I have ever been.  I can’t imagine my life any other way.

​Just Rita Real Talk


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    Rita OWEN

    I have been through a lot in my life just as everyone else; I have found that what I have gone through has always been for my highest good.  There is not a thing that I would change in my life; I would keep the good, the bad, and the ugly.

    Sharing my lessons with you helps me to be the best version of myself.  What I have learned, I share so you are the best version of yourself.  

    When we stand together we are strong and tall making a more confident and loving world.  We are forgiving our past and embracing all that is learned.  We then are teaching our children to be human and the best version of themselves.

    Rita Owen 



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