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Day 64 on our 3rd Year Journey...Helping Women Live in Their Strength and Beauty!!!

7/31/2015

Good morning my beautiful friends...It has been a while since my last blog which is an indicator that I have been struggling a little bit.

This summer is the summer that I have chosen to take care of myself and get myself on track. In doing so I have found that my body is sick but yet I will be able to heal and have an extraordinary life. With that being said; this is why I have chosen this particular inspiration for today.

What If...everything you're going through right now is preparing you for a dream bigger than you can imagine? I know deep down in my heart this inspiration is happening for me. I know that when I am fully recovered and my body is working as it should I will be unstoppable. I know that when I am able to do what I want my whole world is going to shift and change.

When it's all done I know greater things are waiting for me....however, how I am dealing with it all right now is an up and down roller coaster. I find myself in great spirits ready to take on the world, and then the next several days I feel like the energy is being sucked out of me like a vacuum. It is so hard to handle how I feel some days...

I keep in my mind thinking that greater things are coming my way. I will be a new woman when this is all said and done. I know without a doubt this is all true for me....however the dance during this time is slow, fast, depressing and exciting all at the same time.

I am sharing my experience with you, so that you know you are not alone on your journey. I want my struggle to sound off from the mountain tops so you know you are not alone. When we are able to connect with another it all seems to be a little bit better. My struggles are my own; however your struggles are just like mine except the details are different. If we start to stand together and share with each other, we will be able to get through the darkest times a little easier.

Maybe if we started to put our pride away and just allow another person to help us in our journey we would heal even quicker. We are never alone in our life, we always have someone extending their love to us...it's just a matter of us acknowledging it and accepting it.

Don't go through your struggles alone, we are destined for great things; things we don't even know are going to happen. Let the love in and take care of yourself...be patient and watch your life unfold.

Until we meet again my friends...

With all my love...Rita

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Day 53 on our 3rd Year Journey...Helping Women Live in Their Strength and Beauty!!!

7/20/2015

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Good morning my beautiful friends...I hope you are all finding yourselves well on this beautiful Monday morning.

I have been doing a lot of thinking and reflecting these past few weeks. It has mostly been about my health and how much I have abused my own body.

We don't always realize that we are abusing ourselves if we have gone through some serious tragedies in our life. We will over indulge on our comfort food or over indulge with the drink. We always seem to reach for something that will numb us and in turn we are actually killing our own bodies.

While I have been going through my health issues; I have realized how much I have relied on food that has been killing me slowly. Know matter how I felt after; I still reached for the ice cream, the cup cake, the frosting, the sugar, the wine, the mixed drinks...whatever numbed my feeling uncomfortable. No matter how big I got; I complained of the weight gain but I never really realized how much I was eating and drinking all the bad stuff and not any of the good stuff.

My adult life has consisted of putting my past behind me; learning from all the traumas I have experienced throughout my life. I have constantly worked on myself to the point of realizing how much I have been numbing the pain I experienced. It is finally time for me to put all that pain to rest.

When I started to really dive into what is happening with my body, my doctor took me off of dairy, sugar, grains, flour, corn, processed foods and alcohol. At first I truly felt sorry for myself because now I have to really deal with myself, my emotions and my feelings...I have realized I have been numbing my own self. Isn't that something?

As I am going through all of this, I am realizing how much I have kept myself a victim so I would not have to face who I really am. Sometimes when you have a huge dream it scares the daylights out of you. Instead of just moving forward you keep yourself stuck because of the unknown. Growing up, I thought I was a no-body...who was I to think that I could be somebody? I was always put down, so I learned to do what I knew best and that was to be my own worst enemy.

Today I am standing strong...I am 35 days in of eating clean and 51 days in of not drinking any alcohol; this has been a challenge that I am winning. Today, I feel like I can do anything. I feel like I am finally getting control of my food addictions that have been keeping me sick and held back. The world has never really met Rita Domann...so may I introduce to you; Rita Domann.

I am so proud of me thus far and I will continue to share my whole self with you so that you may be introduced to your true self. I love each and every one of you.

Until we meet again...

With all my love...Rita

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Day 50 on our 3rd Year Journey...Helping Women Live in Their Strength and Beauty!!!

7/17/2015

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Good morning my friends...I can't believe it is already July 17th!!! I had made it through my birthday without any dairy, grains, flour, sugar, boxed or canned food along with no alcohol. It has been quite the journey trying to figure out this lifestyle change to help improve my health.

"Change one thing -one idea, one habit -and the frontiers open." That is truly a profound statement in my life at this time. I have to make serious lifestyle changes if I want to continue living on this planet. When you put the fear of losing it all in perspective it allows you to be able to embark on a whole new journey.

Never in my wildest dreams did I ever for a minute think that I could be doing what I am doing with my health. To be able to stay away from all of my comfort food and drink; I am truly amazed at myself. I am choosing life over the food that makes me sick. I would have never thought that I could be this brave.

You are probably wondering how food and drink can be so controlling...well it is for me. It is my drug of choice to protect myself and numb the pain and feelings that arise for me. It is my way to of not being controlled by others; I have a say on what I do...no one else, even if it kills me. That was the old me, now that I have perspective and I want to live; it's a whole new playing field for me. It's not easy but it is a road I must embark on.

Think about your own life...what is it that you can change about you? What one idea that is coming from you, can you take action on? What one habit are you willingly to change? For me it is as simple as I want to be a grandmother to my potential grandchilrden. I want to be there for my son and his family; that means I am no longer selfish with my life. I am choosing to share my full self by taking care of me for the very first time in my life.

It's amazing when you start to find the courage that you never thought you had. When something starts to be taken from you; all of a sudden you change into your true self to keep what you are not willing to lose.

Dig deep into your true self. Don't let anyone take away anything from you; this includes YOU!!! We are our worst theif stealing our lives from our own self.

Until we meet again...

With all my love...Rita

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Day 42 on our 3rd Year Journey...Helping Women Live in Their Strength and Beauty!!!

7/9/2015

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Good morning my beautiful friends...I hope you are all finding yourselves well.

Today is about letting go of all those past hurts that we have been carrying around our whole lives. It's about finally realizing that we needed to go through all those hurts to get where we are today.

Think about how empty our lives would be if we did not go through the hurts that we did. What would our life be like if we did not learn all the lessons that were needed to learn? Really think about it....Every time I think about if my past was just a hair different I would not have the life that I have today. I would not have all the wonderful people that I have in my life right this very moment. In fact I would not even be writing this blog or be on the radio. My whole world that I know it to be now would be different.

Think about all the stuff that has gotten you to where you are right this moment. We had to go through all of the crazy crap to be where we are today. Our past was preparing us for today, so why do we spend so much time dredging up the past. We have already learned from it; the lessons were learned; now it's time to move on and live our life.

If you are pining over an old flame; it wasn't meant to be your one true love, it was meant to teach you something while preparing you for your one true loves arrival. If you are pining over a lost opportunity; it was not your time, it was your time to learn what needed to be learned in order for you to recognize your true opportunity. If you were at any time in your life in an abusive relationship it was to prepare you to fight for YOUR RIGHTS as a HUMAN BEING.

Everything that we have gone through in our life is for a reason. It is not for us to understand but for us to learn from it. Let's start to leave our past in the past and keep what we have learned close to our hearts so we can appreciate the greatness in our life right now.

Until we meet again my friends...

With all my love...Rita

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Day 35 on our 3rd Year Journey...Helping Women Live in Their Strength and Beauty!!!

7/2/2015

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Good morning my beautiful friends....I hope you are all finding yourselves well and very happy.

I have been reading a book called Scared Straight to Success by Rusty Lackey and I just realized that I do not trust anyone or anything.

My life never works out because I don't trust that it actually will. I don't trust anyone in my life fully. I have always kept myself guarded to a point of not being hurt and yet I hurt myself daily by not even trusting myself.

Here's the thing; if you have been hurt in such a way that you don't trust a sole, chances are you were hurt when you were very young. I have been hurt since I was brought into this world by my birth parents as well as the parents who raised me. I have been hurt by a sibling as well as a lot of people who have been around me; from friends to boyfriends and a husband. I have had hurt all around me my entire life.

We learn when we are very young how to protect ourselves and how to survive. I have definitely survived but I have been hurting my own self along the way by not trust anyone including myself. Isn't that crazy? Think about what has been happening in your own life for a minute....what have you learned that made you decide to protect yourself? What has not been going your way because of the declarations you have made for yourself?

As I have been reading this book things about me have been coming up; a lot of it is from my childhood when I made decisions for myself to survive. I have become my own worst enemy not realizing what I have been doing. I am a very smart loving woman who has been cutting my success short. I have allowed my body to be sick so that I could keep myself away from disappointment and yet I am disappointed with my body. I have dummied myself down so people around me never feel like I am better than them or rubbing their face in it. I have kept myself in the shadows desperate to shine because I am afraid of losing people who are so important to me.

I have created the family who is in my life today; I no longer have contact with the family I was raised in so I have created my family through friends. With that being said I hold on dearly to these wonderful people; I make sure my son is happy so he never leaves, I try to be available to my friends when they need me no matter what to ensure they will always be in my life. We don't realize how much we get screwed up when we are brought up into families that destroy everything in their path.

I was an innocent child growing up in a major dysfunctional family; thank God that the parents who brought me into this world did not raise me, I am grateful for the parents who did. However, they had their own crazy going on and I made many decisions when I was young to protect myself. I was just a young innocent child trying to survive a crazy life that was molding me to be this adult who has deep rooted baggage that keeps coming up.

Today I realized I still don't TRUST; after all the work I have done on myself thus far I still don't TRUST anyone or anything including myself. I never trust that I will succeed, I never trust that I am worthy, I never trust that I can release this weight, I never trust that I can breathe easy, I never trust that I will be able to attain any goals that I have for myself. I have been keeping my own self back because of this little yet big word TRUST!!!!

What is it that keeps you back in your life? What is it that keeps you hiding in the background when you know deep down to your toes you are supposed to be up on that big beautiful stage? I even realize that my first husband that I thought I was so in love with and pined for even after the marriage, I deserved. I felt so bad about myself that I had been rejecting a man I am married to now because I felt he was too good for me and I deserved less. God has put this beautiful sweet man in my life and I felt so bad about me I spent years keeping him at bay and yet he is still here loving me every day.

Today is one of the greatest days of my life; I have answered the question for myself that I have been longing for. Isn't it true when the student is ready the teacher will come? Today I am going to breathe in deep and start taking the steps I need to step into my greatness and stop living in the shadows of what can be; I am going to make it WHAT WILL BE. Anything that I do I do well and scare myself out of it. Today I will stop and break through the barriers that scare the daylights out of me. What will be, will be; if it's not meant to be it won't.

I leave you today with this last thought; keep looking for the answers no matter what, if it hurts keep going, if it offends keep going, you are so important to find the answers you seek. The answers are always in front of you, you just have to open your eyes and TRUST.

I love you all so much; until we meet again my friends...

With all my love, Rita.....

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Rita OWEN

I have been through a lot in my life just as everyone else; I have found that what I have gone through has always been for my highest good. There is not a thing that I would change in my life; I would keep the good, the bad, and the ugly.

Sharing my lessons with you helps me to be the best version of myself. What I have learned, I share so you are the best version of yourself.

When we stand together we are strong and tall making a more confident and loving world. We are forgiving our past and embracing all that is learned. We then are teaching our children to be human and the best version of themselves.

Rita Owen