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Day 245 on Empowering Women to be Healthy and Confident!!!

1/31/2015

Good Morning my beautiful friends out in this amazing world; I hope you are all finding your Saturday to be a perfect day. In just two days it will be Groundhog DAY!!! I LOVE IT!!! Every year in Woodstock IL, Woodstock Willie comes out to let us know the winter forecast...I can't wait to hear what he has in store for us!!! I will be there waiting with quiet gray skies...hahahahah

Anyhoo....I wanted to talk a little bit about disappointment. A lot of times we find ourselves disappointed when we are always going above and beyond to make someone feel loved or special and when we don't get back what we think we should get we find ourselves very disappointed. We may even find ourselves feeling vengeful or resentment towards the people we love most.

This morning as I came across this particular inspiration I had an ahha moment. I will always go beyond the call of duty to make sure things are perfect, special and unique. I always want the person receiving to feel like they are my absolute world in that particular moment; when I don't feel like I get that back my feelings are hurt. Can anyone else out in the world relate to how I am feeling?

The problem is that we have an expectation on how our love should be received and in return given back. I know for me if I give I give all of me, then I want you to give all of you back to me. That's not fair because they may be giving all of them back to me at their own capacity. I am not in relationship with myself; I am in relationship with others, that's the key. We can't expect the other person to be just like us; that's what makes us special. What makes them special is that they give in their own way, but we are too busy judging and expecting it to be like our way. What an amazing observation....If we start to let go of expectation and judgment we may start to appreciate what one offers and be able to love and accept gracefully and gratefully. This will allow for a much more loving relationship rather than a difficult one. I know my husband will appreciate this...ahahahah.

Starting with today, let's start practicing letting go of expectation and judgment. Lets start practicing accepting and loving so that we are happier and content. I just love this blog, I truly learn from my ahha moments and I love sharing them. I hope you are all enjoying this blog as much as I am writing it....however no expectation or judgment here.

Until we meet again....

With all my love...Rita

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Day 244 on Empowering Women to be Healthy and Confident!!!

1/30/2015

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Good afternoon my friends....I hope you are all doing amazing this beautiful sunny day. This week has been a very amazing and yet very eye opening for me. I am back to my regular daily schedule and I have so much to share...hence the inspiration for today.

As you all know I did my very first debut show "Just Rita" on Monday. It was a good show that got my feet wet and showed me what direction I want my show to do in.

I am all about helping women look and feel confident. I want women to know their self worth and how important we all are in this life; we matter and we all have a say on what happens in our life. One thing that is becoming very clear to me is the whole "Comfort Zone" conversation. One thing that makes my blog a success is that I am sharing my whole self all the time. I am not pretending to be something that I am not so you would be great in your own life. As I share my struggles and successes with all of you, you are all able to see for yourselves that you can do it too...maybe even better than me...it's all up to you.

But sometimes that comfort zone is safe place to be in and when we dare to step out it can be a terrifying thing as well. I think that is why so many people don't actually do and accomplish the things that are in their hearts desire. I struggle with the comfort zone all the time. It seems that when I get comfy doing one thing I am immediately pushed into doing something that is out of the zone and I have to adjust to that. As we grow we are being pushed out of the zone, which means we will lives our lives successfully if we are always out of the comfort zone. Once we settle for the zone; we have then settled for our lives. Pending on who you are this is either a good thing or it could be a bad thing....it depends on what you truly want out of life. This is not right or wrong it is just what is it that you want in your life?

What you want will keep you in the zone or push you out....I want to be at a Black Diamond level in my It Works business...that means I would be a millionaire; that means I am being pushed out of the comfort zone which is extremely scary to me. I also want to be a Motivational Speaker around the world; again I am being pushed out of the zone.

These dreams that I have are huge; taking note at to which hard I am going to take will tell the tale of my life. I am tired of being broke and that is why I am constantly putting myself in situations that push me out of the comfort zone. I want so much for myself, my family and all of you that I continually have to readjust and learn so I can keep moving forward. What will you choose for your life? How will you show up and make your dreams come true?

This is a lot to think about...I took a good look at my show from Monday and I want to be better; I want to help people move forward in their life. I have worked too hard to let it all go and change my focus. No matter who you are or what you have done or where you have been; I am there to help you move forward. Until we meet again...

With all my love....Rita

PS...www.247thestream.com/news click on Just Rita on Mondays from noon-2:00 pm. You will be able to call in and you will be able to go in the chat room and talk to other people who are like minded; you can ask questions, add your point of view or connect with amazing people. I can't wait to see you on the show!!!

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Day 241 on Empowering Women to be Healthy and Confident!!!

1/27/2015

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Good morning my friends...I am so excited to share about my "Just Rita" radio/internet show debut which was a hit. This blog has allowed myself to grow in ways that I could have only dreamed of. I am so grateful to have shared so many personal moments about myself with you so that you can change your own life and do things differently.

Yesterday on the show we talked about letting go of people who cross boundaries who continue to disappoint and hurt us. It was so fitting to come across this particular inspiration today; it was like having confirmation on the topics that were talked about.

When we remove people from our lives it is not as easy as it seems. When we have finally had enough and we care more about ourselves to move forward; there is still a part of us that will be tortured until we finally come to terms with it all. For me it was a very difficult decision to walk away from my family 23 years ago. I knew when I made that decision I would have to do everything alone; there would be no sharing my wins or my losses with my family. I would not have the support and love from them; I would have to figure it all out on my own. However large the consequences I knew the right thing for me to do would be to change my life and the life of my son.

Every decision I have ever made for myself was all for my son. I knew that raising him differently would give him a chance to be a man who would love anyone, not speak in judgment, and most importantly be a good husband and father. This was so very important to me. I did not want my son to grow up the way I did; I wanted better and that meant making the biggest and hardest decision of my life. Getting rid of toxic people is a struggle; but it is a struggle that will allow goodness and happiness into your life.

Look around you...who is in your life making you miserable? Who is in your life influencing your behavior? Who is in your life helping you to become a better person? Who is in your life telling you "You can do it!"? Who is in your life telling you "That will never work for you."? Think about it....

Even though we love the toxic people; we need to either limit our time spent together or we need to be strong and walk away. Everyone has their own life to live. Our parents have already lived theirs and now they are finishing their lives out....it is up to us to learn what we are here for and go on our own journey. Be strong enough to stand for your own beliefs and what you want. You will love yourself even more when you do.

Until we meet again my friends...

With all my love...Rita

P.S. If you want to listen to the show go to www.247thestream.com/news click on Just Rita and then click on the White arrow....you will be able to listen all week....The show airs every Monday from 12:00-2:00 pm central standard time. Let me know what you think and if there are any topics you would like to discuss.

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Day 240 on Empowering Women to be Healthy and Confident!!!

1/26/2015

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Good morning my friends....what a beautiful Monday it is. I am so excited to be here writing this blog and sharing my life with all of you. One thing for sure I am learning so much in my life by sharing rather than keeping it to myself and staying stuck in my life.

Miracles are all around us. No matter what our situation may be in life there is a miracle right there waiting for you to take. As I have gotten back from my trip and realize there is more month than money; I am noticing that God is providing miracles all around me. All I have to do is wake up, tale it and set myself free.

Anything is possible as long as we never give up. Quitting is never an option no matter what. Once you quit and give up on yourself your miracles start to get further and further away from you. God does not want us to suffer...he wants us to realize how amazing we are and go get the miracle.

Never say never. When we say never it always comes to us...no matter what it is we always get it. If you never get what you want, you will never get what you want; if you never get rewarded then you will never get rewarded; see how that works...Never say NEVER...always say I always get what I want, everything always works out for my highest good. Guess what; when you have that attitude you always do get what you want!!!

Have an amazing day my friends, until we meet again...

With all my love...Rita

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Day 239 on Empowering Women to be Healthy and Confident!!!

1/25/2015

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Good evening my beautiful friends...I hope you are enjoying your Sunday. It has been a quiet and decompressing day. I am so excited for the week to start and make some serious changes in my life. I LOVE IT!!!

Living with integrity is so very important. Doing what you say you will do for yourself builds confidence that you don't even realize. Not settling for less than what you know you deserve in your relationships are so very important. We all deserve the best in every relationship we have; whether it be with a sibling, a parent, a friend, a child, a co-worker and even a spouse just to name a few. When you do not demand the best for yourself in relationships you will welcome chaos and maybe difficult times. For myself when I had relationships that I knew were not good for me I got a lot of heart ache. It is a never ending cycle of disappointment. It is up to you to demand healthy relationships for yourself.

Asking for what you want and need from other is an amazing quality to have. When you are able to ask for what you want and not settle because of fear; you will get all that you deserve. We are so afraid of asking for what we want in a relationship. We are always afraid of offending the other person or maybe afraid of asking for too much. When you have confidence and self worth; asking for what you want is a necessity it is not an option.

Speaking your truth, even though it might create conflict or tension shows how much you truly love yourself. When you are able to stand strong and demand what is your truth; somehow things always seem to work out for your best interest. When you are not a stand for who you are, no one will see your value and give you the respect you deserve. Sometimes speaking your truth will make some people go away; that's okay, let them go. They don't need to be in your life until they have the respect for you that you deserve.

Behaving in ways that are in harmony with your personal values will allow others to be in harmony. When you are acting crazy and yelling all the time, people will act the same way. When you are in harmony with yourself and you are unwavering with who you are, people will respond to that and be the same way. If they are not responding to you the way you want, let them go. You want to create people around you who are like minded.

Make choices based on what you believe, not what others believe. Every time I went against my better judgment I always found myself in trouble. Always trust the gut instinct that we all possess, we truly do know what is best for us. What may be true and best for one may not be true and best for us. Always ask yourself "am I going to regret this" if it is yes, don't do it....if it is no, then go with your gut.

Today's inspiration means so much to me. I have been through many relationships that I have kept very close to me, some that I have let go of and some that I are there when I need them. We always need people in our lives; be choosy about the ones who you let in. Remember, we become who we hang around most. Who do you want to be?

Until we meet again my friends...

With all my love...Rita

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Day 238 on Empowering Women to Look and Feel Confident!!!

1/24/2015

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OMG!!!! It has been ages since I was able to blog. I so missed each and every one of you.....I had been out of town for the past two weeks going to my It Works Global Conference #LIMELITE15 and I was visiting my sister Ronda who I hadn't seen in 20 years. It was an amazing trip that I can't wait to share with all of you.

So why this particular quote? "Sometimes the worst of times of your life put us on the direct path to the best of times." I had left my family about 23 years ago. I wanted to create a different life for myself than the one that I was brought up in. When you make major decisions you create major consequences. Some consequences are extremely painful and some are tolerable. I never thought in a million years that I would have a relationship with my sister.

When I left my family I was an angry, disgruntled young adult trying to make heads or tails of my life. I wanted so much more for my son and I left. I hurt many people in the process and was hurt as well. I knew leaving would allow a chance for my son to be different and I took it; however, it was one of the hardest things I had ever done. That would mean I did not have any support in anything that I did from anyone; I was truly on my own.

A few months back I had found my two older half brothers; that sparked the relationship with my full sister Ronda. We would talk about the situation of finding our brothers along with everything else. We found ourselves talking on the phone for hours at a time. This past week I was able to spend quality time with her. I was able to stay at her home while being in Florida and just talk to her, laugh with her and cry with her. We were able to really get to know one another as adults who have been through some really tough times. We were able to laugh for hours on end and dig deep into our stuff without getting crazy or upset. To me it was a priceless moment.

One of the worst of times allowed me to learn what I needed so that I can later be one of the best sisters God has allowed me to be. I am so proud of who my sister is and what she has had to do to overcome a serious tragedy that has altered her life forever. She is one of the most brilliant thinkers and does not allow obstacles to stop her. She presses on and knows that everything is for a reason; it is up to us to figure that out.

I love you Ronda!!!! I am so grateful to be back into your life.

No matter what it is that you are going through right now...look at the silver lining...as my sister would say "Find A FUNNY" and keep moving forward. Until we meet again my friends...

With all my love....Rita

P.S. My Just Rita Show starts on Monday January 26th at noon-2:00 pm central time.... www.247thestream.com/news I LOVE IT!!!

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Day 226 Empowering Women to be Healthy and Confident!!!

1/12/2015

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Good morning my friends...It's Monday already!!! I can't believe a new week has started and we are almost to the middle of January. I wish there was some way to slow down time.

As we are in January it is a new year and a new you. We get to review last year for a quick moment and start this year fresh. A new clean slate and what we did not accomplish last year we can do it this year. The first thing that is on the agenda is to love yourself fully. Look into that mirror without judgment and really love yourself. Talk to yourself; tell yourself that it's okay and we can pick up where we left off.

To many times we beat ourselves up for things that we think we should have done. However, if you really think about it, everything happens for a reason. For whatever reason a project did not get completed or a goal was not achieved there is a reason that we don't know about. Maybe we weren't ready, maybe something was not going to work out in our favor....whatever the reason does not matter, what matters is that you can start anew. So love yourself instead of beating yourself up.

When doors get closed, keep them closed. You have already learned what you needed and now it's time to walk through another door. It's time that we all start looking differently at our lives. It is truly time to start loving ourselves unconditionally so that other around us will love us the same. When we start looking at life as a class filled with learning and lessons things become a little easier. When things get really tough you will be able to handle whatever it is easier because of the lessons. We don't really realize that when we are going through life we are actually learning and preparing for the future. We are being taught that we can do anything and handle anything that comes our way. Look back at your life and really take notice on what you were taught. You would be amazed.

When I look back at my past I see a hard life, but most importantly I saw lessons that have gotten me where I am today. There is not one thing that I would change because I would not be the woman I am today. Think about it my friends, think about what you have been through...what did it teach you, and how were you able to handle life? It is truly an eye opener! Have an amazing day my friends. Until we meet again....

With all my love...Rita

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Day 224 on Empowering Women to be Healthy and Confident!!!

1/10/2015

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Good afternoon my friends...this week has gone by so fast I can't keep track of the days. I am actually starting to feel like a human being again and really being able to breathe; what an amazing feeling.

I share this inspiration with you today because I want to you know if you feel like a door is closing; it's okay, let it close. Many of you have been following my blog for quite some time and you have learned a little bit about me. I have recently found two older brothers and reconnected with my sister who I have not seen in over 20 years, along with reconnecting with my natural birth mother. These past few months have been a crazy roller coaster.

You might be thinking to yourself, if she has had all that going on, why would she post a quote such as this? Well sometimes doors are meant to stay closed. However we don't really figure that out until you have gone through an experience or two or three or four....I laugh at how many times I keep trying to pry the door open.

I had found out that I had birth parents when I was going into my senior year of high school. When I had my son it plagued me that a parent could let go of their child so I sought out my birth father. I had my questions answered with him and had a little bit of a relationship with him but it dwindled off. I got to know him along with three younger siblings that I have. I was grateful that the curiosity for him was gone. Then after 14 years I found my two older brothers this past July; it was literally like finding a needle in a haystack. Unfortunately it is turning out that they blame our birth father for their life and everyone else around them. Being able to reconnect with my sister has been the answer to my prayers; to be able to talk to her almost daily for hours is a blessing I never thought I wanted, but I am so grateful for it. Now my birth mother who has been in my life, who I grew up as my aunt, has been a door I truly should have kept shut.

Through life you always hear "Forgive and Forget", "People Change", "Their Different Now", "I Am Sorry", "Their Old Now"....we hear all kinds of things that put us in positions to either heal, let go or to be warned. With my birth mother it was all three; I did heal from all the lies and I finally started to know who I am and where I came from, but it is not something that will dictate my life, it is actually setting me free. Sometimes people don't change; they don't know how to be other than the person they have been their whole lives. I actually feel sorry for people like that because they truly don't know what they are missing in life. They are missing in the goodies that God has tried to give them; people who could have changed their whole life around but they can't see past who they have always been. It is such a waste. Learning to let go and start truly living is one of the most amazing gifts you can give yourself. I have learned to let go finally. I have learned that people do not have to be in my life that is only going to hurt and disappoint. I have learned that I am better than all this pain and I have a say how it's going to affect me.

That is the beauty of being on an amazing journey. We don't know how our life is going to go; we have to keep taking the roads that will teach us how to participate in life. We learn how to treat each other with love and respect by learning to love and respect our own selves. We start to demand the best for ourselves and we don't accept horrible treatment by others.

Every day is different, everyday is a new experience, how we learn and grow from it will make or break us. How do you want to live your life? I want to be someone who bounces back and truly makes something of myself. I don't want to be that person were people feel sorry for me and say "she could have been somebody". I want to be that girl were people say "My God She Is AMAZING!!!”

Think about your life and your experiences....how do you want to be in your daily life? Think about it...That is how your life will go. Until we meet again my friends...

With all my love...Rita

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Day 218 on Empowering Women to be Healthy and Confident!!!

1/4/2015

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Good morning my friends...What an amazing day we are having. The ground is covered in snow and it is the beginning of January. I can't believe how fast time flies and the holidays are over and the New Year is already in full swing of 2015.

With that being said it is so important to let go of 2014. No matter what happened last year, do now dwell on it. We just got a do over and it is time to focus on what is right now. It's time to glance back for a second to make changes for our present and future; but don't sit and dwell on the mistakes and bad times.

To many times we get hung up in our past. We put ourselves down and hold ourselves captive reliving our mistakes. The past is already behind us; use those lessons and learn from them. Be grateful that you got through it and you can learn and change from those past mistakes. Don't sit there and dwell on what could have been because that will not get you anywhere but stuck. Trust me, I have dwelled in my past too many times to count and it never got me anywhere but miserable.

I think of everything as learning lessons. I had a family I broke free from, I had a husband I broke free from, and I had jobs that I broke free from. When I think of all the events in my past; I am forever grateful that it has all lead me to today. I have more opportunities coming to me because of who I am. I have amazing people in my life because of all I have been through. I have a life that is amazing because of all that I have been through. How do you ask? I stopped torturing myself about my past and really took a good look at all that I had learned from all of my experiences and I realized each lesson has lead me to my amazing life today.

Here is something else to think about...my life is amazing because I appreciate and I am grateful for every bit of it. Someone looking at my life may say it's not all that; but to me it is everything. I have an attitude that allows me to see the greater things in life despite what it may look like to others. That has allowed opportunities in my life that allows me to live my dreams.

Starting January 26th, 2015 on Monday at 12:00 noon until 2:00 p.m. central standard time; I will be hosting my own show on www.247thestream.com/news "Just Rita". The show is all about empowering women to realize they have what it takes to live their dreams. They just have to find the courage to do it, and I am the perfect person to help you see the greatness in you to live your dreams. I can't wait to do the show and be will all of you on the airwaves, my dreams are coming true because of all the lessons I have learned in life. I am letting go of the past, learning from the past and being grateful of the past.

Have an amazing day my friends....let go and start living. Until we meet again...

With all of my love....Rita

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Rita OWEN

I have been through a lot in my life just as everyone else; I have found that what I have gone through has always been for my highest good. There is not a thing that I would change in my life; I would keep the good, the bad, and the ugly.

Sharing my lessons with you helps me to be the best version of myself. What I have learned, I share so you are the best version of yourself.

When we stand together we are strong and tall making a more confident and loving world. We are forgiving our past and embracing all that is learned. We then are teaching our children to be human and the best version of themselves.

Rita Owen