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new beginnings...be grateful for everything!

5/17/2018

Have you ever noticed when you close the door to someone or something, and your new beginning either takes a long time to get started or it never really gets off the ground and leaves you feeling like a failure? We have all experienced that in one way or another; today let's talk about why that happens.
The main reason why we can't move forward is gratitude is missing. What????? How can I be grateful for what I just went through? Great question, right? We have all learned through and taught through a situation we have ended. Everything we have ever been through or going through has lessons and blessing in all of it. If we are not grateful for the experience we have missed the lesson, therefore we miss the blessings. Think about it for a minute......
We must look at every experience through eyes of gratitude; the situation along with the person involved. When I look at all the people who have been in my life through the toughest of times, I must look at the lesson, so I can see the blessing. This maybe a hard pill to swallow if you are not ready to forgive or see the perspective. Every person who has participated in my life has brought me closer to who I am today. Every person!!! If I did not go through what I did with each person, I would not be writing, blogging, having a radio show, or doing the readings I do for people. I would not have the knowledge to help others.
This is very important to understand. Many of you have gone through great loss and tragedy, I get it, I have too...however, we need to see the lessons to receive the blessings. We need to understand how this world is all about learning, growing, sharing and loving no matter what. When you can start to appreciate your experiences everything else falls right in place.

Just Rita Real Talk

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new beginnings...acknowledge your pain

5/7/2018

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Whenever you are starting something new, you are saying good bye to something; old behaviors, relationships, work, home, etc. As we grow, we learn a lot; sometimes what we learn is not the most exciting, wonderful or even safe things to learn, but we keep moving forward. We will push down and burry old feelings, memories, experiences, whatever we don't want to deal with; but it always surfaces one way or another until we acknowledge it.
I have come across some of my friends dealing with these types of issues that I have been able to help them with, because I too have had to deal with my stuff. The Stuff always seems to rear its head when you least expect it; someone comes for a visit, you find something out about someone, you hear a comment or even just a sound that will put you in a tail spin...Suddenly you have turned into Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde.
When I got married for the 2nd time, I thought everything was going to be perfect. I finally had everything I was looking for; a man who understood, someone who I can share everything with, a father for my child who he could look up too. It was, I thought, a match made from heaven. Within a few short months my world as I knew it would come crashing down. Everything I had ever stuffed down beneath my toes would come erupting up. I was dealing with stuff that I never thought I would have to think about again. My 2nd marriage took quite a hit when I had to dive in my pain and realize that it was not being hidden any longer. I had to do a lot of work on myself, so I could participate in my life and in my marriage.
I find, if you don't deal with your demons, your demons will come find you, so you do deal with them. You can't escape, you are meant to realize everything has happened for your highest good; that may be a tough pill to swallow, but you need to deal with it. I was a victim of my life for a long time until I decided to deal with my demons and realize who I am today is because of what I had gone through. I look back at my life and see a strong little girl who kept on fighting for herself, I also see a woman who is an inspiration to many because of what I went through. I am no different from anyone around me, I just dealt with my pain.

Tune in Thursday at Noon to hear the live broadcast on this topic.

Just Rita Real Talk

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new Beginnings...Are you secure?

5/3/2018

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Everything we do always has an end and a new beginning; we are always in the moment of change and sometimes not being secure will stop us or slow us down. Have you ever felt like you knew you could do something but not knowing exactly how it will turn out will most times leave you feeling insecure?
Today's topic is all about security and looking at insecure in a different perspective.
What does security mean to you? For me, it means that no matter what happens I know I will always be good; even though my relationship is not where I would like it, I have security in knowing I have a roof over my head, food on the table, clothes on my back, car to drive and so on... What does insecure meant to you? For me, insecure means that no matter what is happening, no matter the opportunities in front of me, no matter the knowledge I possess I am always waiting for the shoe to drop or the floor to fall out from underneath me.
Insecure or insecurity are two words that plague most people; I find myself fluctuating back in forth what I know I can do, and what if I can't do it. Sometimes I understand why people stay in situations that are not good for them; sometimes any kind of security is better than no security. However, when do we realize that to be secure we need to be secure in ourselves...
When we are secure in ourselves and know that no matter what happens we will determine how secure we truly are. Let's dive into this conversation and change the way we think about our situations and become secure in our own decisions.
We can only change our mindset, no one else. If we are in partnerships with people who want us to depend on them, we become insecure about our own self. We have given our power to someone else and forget we can do whatever we want.
Let's be SECURE IN WHO WE ARE!!!

Just Rita Real Talk

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Rita OWEN

I have been through a lot in my life just as everyone else; I have found that what I have gone through has always been for my highest good. There is not a thing that I would change in my life; I would keep the good, the bad, and the ugly.

Sharing my lessons with you helps me to be the best version of myself. What I have learned, I share so you are the best version of yourself.

When we stand together we are strong and tall making a more confident and loving world. We are forgiving our past and embracing all that is learned. We then are teaching our children to be human and the best version of themselves.

Rita Owen