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Do What Scares YOU, Not What Make You Comfortable.

12/28/2018

Good morning my friends…I hope you are finding yourselves well.

As I embark on my new life and experiences, I realize how far I have come. This whole year for me has been about facing amazing fears and seeing who I truly am.

I have always heard when you are most terrified to do something…that is exactly what you should be doing. When you are comfortable, that is not where you need to be…you are stuck when comfortable. What a concept, we live our whole lives avoiding things we are afraid of and yet we should be doing things that most scare us.

I made some big decisions for myself this past year, one to live on my own, the second to get divorced, and three to open an office along with many other decisions. Those first three were very hard to make along with taking the first steps to put into motion. It is one thing to make a decision, but to put it into action is another.

One thing that I have learned was when I made the decisions and took action, everything fell into place very quickly. My life has literally changed almost overnight. I have never been happier even though I had to go through some tough stuff, but when you only have yourself to answer to; the stress is almost not there.

You will always know if you are making the right decisions for yourself if everything falls into place like magic. The time frame seems to go very quickly and you notice everything is working out for your highest good. When you feel you are making the wrong decisions, you will feel heaviness, things take forever or it is one road block after another.

Now, saying that, there are always exceptions. Sometimes, when everything is falling into place there may be a timing issue or a block; but it will quickly resolve. When you are making a decision that is not for your highest good, you will feel that deep rooted pull that it’s just not right. It’s that nagging feeling, even though things may feel like they are falling into place. Sometimes we may be trying to force an outcome thinking that is where we need to be.

Always remember to go within yourself when you are making changes. If it is something you really want and yet you are terrified, scared or nervous that is where you need to be headed. If you want something or a change because it’s easy or comfortable, that is not where you need to be.

Life is all about growing, stretching, pulling and experiencing. Life will push you far out of your comfort zone so you are living fully. That is where you will find your true self, and what you are made of.

Have an amazing day my friends.

Just Rita Real Talk

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Walk through the darkness, there is always light...

12/27/2018

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Good morning my beautiful friends. I hope you all had an amazing holiday in whatever you celebrate and you are looking forward to the New Year.

I found today’s inspiration very comforting. Over my holiday things did not go according to my plan, and I had to euthanize my beautiful kitten Maisy. There were some unfortunate events that occurred and my poor girl was hurt so bad, we could not save her.

I find myself devastated, deeply saddened and there is not a day that I don’t shed tears for her. However, reading today’s inspiration allows me to see how far I have come in my life. During this terrible time, my automatic response is coming from a place of love and not putting blame anywhere; not even myself.

When we go through tough times, we have an opportunity to dig deep into ourselves and show others who we are, what we are made of. I am so proud that I am not allowing this experience to just give up. Maisy is teaching me so much, even from the other side. She knows how much I love her, and I know how much she loves me.

I got a call yesterday from someone who needed my help; I agreed to see her and give her a reading. She had no idea what I had been through, but I was able to help her get clarity for her own life and move forward powerfully. I was able to put my own despair aside and do what I do best, and help people feel great about themselves. I was so grateful for her call and the reward I received in return was GREAT.

When we go through hardships, it is not to make us hard, but to make us softer. We need these experiences to show others what we are truly made of. The experiences we have throughout our lives will give us the tools we need to help others in our present day and future.

Look at the bigger picture of your own situation; what is it around the situation you are to discover about yourself? Who are you really in any given situation? How do you treat others when you are going through something tough?

You will find when you stop being the victim of your life, you will see all the wonderful things you are made of, including all the opportunities that are waiting for you to grab them. As always, I don’t take anything lightly; no matter the situation, there is always something to grow from.

My dear souls start to look at your life and your experiences as opportunity to learn and grow. Don’t become angry and jaded, you will find your life will get worse if you play in that puddle.

May your day be amazing and bright.

Just Rita Real Talk

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Believe in YOU and Change YOUR WHOLE WORLD!!!

12/13/2018

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Good morning my friends…I hope you are finding yourselves awesome this beautiful morning.

I came across an old inspiration I shared this day in 2014; “Whatever you believe about yourself on the inside, you will manifest on the outside.” What an amazing thought.

When you wake up each and every morning filled with negative, loathing and unproductive thoughts, you are actually creating your day. When you wake up each and every morning filled with positive, loving and productive thoughts, you are creating your day.

This morning came very fast and early. When I awoke and moved my body I had a bad headache, I quickly grabbed some head pain relief and laid back down. As I laid there, I felt like I needed to get up and start moving; I needed to start my day no matter what. So I did.

I got the coffee going, kitties fed, breakfast made and into the shower I went. However, that was not all I did. Yesterday, I bought the kittens a scratch house, so I put that together for them before I entered the shower. When I was done, I realized my headache was not as bad as when I awoke. I found that when you put your energy toward something different then what is happening around you, you actually change how you are feeling immediately.

When I went to bed last night, I was so tired; I don’t think I moved all night. I stayed in one weird position all night, and when I awoke my head was killing me. I have gotten into the practice of being different in my daily activities since I have been on my own; and I am so glad I can acknowledge my progress. How I feel on the inside is literally reflecting my outside.

This is something that is so important to understand; when you live a life of doom and gloom, that’s all you have around you. When you are in a situation where you are not inspired to live fully, your outside reflects that; it will feel like you can’t deal with anything. But, when you start to change how you feel about yourself, your life feels so much easier than you ever dreamed.

This year I made huge changes; I decided to divorce and I turned 50, moved into my own place and showed myself I can do anything. Every day I wake up feeling amazing, even when I am sick, I still feel good; this is something I have never experienced in my life. I challenge myself every day, and I acknowledge and celebrate all my accomplishments; I do it out loud as well. I don’t care who hears.

This is something for us all to start practicing; start to really love yourself more than your current circumstances. Love yourself so much you will do whatever it takes to live your life powerfully. Love yourself so much you change the way you look at life and respond. Love yourself so much your whole world is changing right before your eyes; everything you ever dreamed of, you are receiving all of your life desires.

Just Rita Real Talk

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December 12th, 2018

12/12/2018

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Good morning my beautiful friends…OMG…I can’t believe how this years is coming to a close so quickly.

It has been a year of so much growth for so many, however, many don’t see it as growth; they see it as “what happened to me.”

I picked today’s inspiration because it speaks volumes with just a few words. The smartest thing anyone can ever learn; is not to need anyone. Men and women together think they need each other to be whole and to be taken care of. People will get into relationships that they know are not the best for them, or they will feel obligated.

We really only need ourselves to live, we have all the tools inside of us to succeed. However, we are taught our whole life we are not worthy or good enough; that we need a partner to be complete. When we start to get up in age, we start to feel the pressure of finding someone or else there is something wrong…

When we are able to be whole and complete with ourselves and take care of our person, we are then ready to be with another. We will then be with our partner because we want to be there, not because we have to be there.

I look at my own personal life with two marriages that did not work; I am 50 years old and finally on my own. I am realizing more and more how important it is too raise men and women who can stand in their own power and live extraordinary lives. We need to start thinking about how to change our views and perspectives so our kids can change theirs.

I think that when we start to love ourselves and know that no matter what happens we can do it, there will be less devastation in our world. So many of us become victims of circumstance; I am finally starting to get it. Taking care of me and knowing I am whole and complete on my own, I feel empowered. I am happy to be with my own person for quite a while and learn what I like and don’t like. The next person who I spend time with will be someone who wants to participate and yet still be independent.

I am so excited for what is to come…Learning to take care of me and not depend on another is an amazing experience. We should all do it, not just women.

Have an amazing day my friends.

Just Rita Real Talk

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Take every opportunity to respond positively...you will change your whole world.

12/6/2018

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Good morning my friends…I hope you are all finding yourselves well this Thursday morning.

I came across today’s inspiration on Facebook, and I feel like with Christmas upon us, we can all use some tools in our pockets.

As we start to go to parties, and celebrate the end of the year, we come across a lot of people who have nothing good to say; most of those people are our own families. It is never too early to prepare for these occasions.

As you start to interact with the naysayers, it is always a great idea to have an escape plan. When you are coming from a place of love, and know how you are going to keep moving forward, there seems to be less, casualties. When you come from a place of responding instead of reacting, you tend to leave any situation and the offender feeling loved instead of hurt or angry.

We all have people in our lives that have nothing good to say. They see the world as bleak and dismal as possible; however, we can always have patients and love them anyway. We don’t have to leave them with more evidence nothing ever works out for them.

When we are able to anticipate the conversation, we can come up with quick things to say that will leave them thinking, and you have escaped the dismal conversation. When you can wrap up their sad conversation, with something positive; you can walk away quickly, and leave them agreeable. It will leave you in a happier state than if you would have not prepared.

When you start to respond differently, you will start to attract new people to you…the ones who are inspired, passionate, motivated, grateful and open minded.

Have an amazing day my friends.

Just Rita Real Talk

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Bring Love into your Life and Holiday Season!!!

12/5/2018

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Good afternoon my beautiful friends…I hope you are finding yourselves well and feeling fantastic.

This time of year we are trying to end the year, get ready for the holidays, get caught up on the bills, and do whatever it takes to get into the New Year; which leaves us happy, sad, and or crazy.

When you look at that statement and really ponder it, it leaves me feeling exhausted. It’s like we are so focused we forget what this time of year is all about. It’s a time where we need to start slowing down, start appreciating the year and all the celebrations around us; start to spend the time with our loved ones and plan for the new up-coming year.

Love is all around us, at every given moment; but we don’t take the time to notice. We get bogged down with all the he said/she said, along with every little thing that has become so offensive. We worry about so many things, because we are not paying attention to our own lives; we are so worried about everybody else. The crazy thing is, if we could just stop and pay attention to our own selves, we would actually be able to see the love around us.

Think about it…It may not be you, but how many people are so worried about what you are doing? How many times are people trying to keep up with each other, and don’t even stop to look at what they already have? Right? I am thinking and writing "It’s A Wonderful Life" popped into my head when Pete told his Dad George about the neighbors new car, and George blew a gasket…Now, I am not going crazy and saying in the movie it was about keeping up with the jones’…but George said, “Isn’t our car good enough?” This is just an example, as I am clarifying it…but this is how our world has become.

Look at the show majority of us grew up with, “Rudolf the Red Nose Reindeer”; now that show has been labeled offensive along with the Christmas song, “Baby it’s Cold Outside”. When does it stop, when can we just start to see things the way they were meant to be and quit looking at everything as if someone is deliberately trying to hurt us.

We need to start to look at everything through love glasses, become tolerant and patient and not make everything about alterier motives to hurt people. Now, I get it; there are things and people out there to cause harm, however we need to quit making everything a problem.

Let’s bring in love, let’s bring in happiness, and let’s bring in joy. Let’s finish this year strong and enjoy what we have in front of us. No matter what the situation, let’s look at the bigger picture and see what we can be grateful for.

Enjoy the rest of your day.

Just Rita Real Talk

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Rita OWEN

I have been through a lot in my life just as everyone else; I have found that what I have gone through has always been for my highest good. There is not a thing that I would change in my life; I would keep the good, the bad, and the ugly.

Sharing my lessons with you helps me to be the best version of myself. What I have learned, I share so you are the best version of yourself.

When we stand together we are strong and tall making a more confident and loving world. We are forgiving our past and embracing all that is learned. We then are teaching our children to be human and the best version of themselves.

Rita Owen