Anyhoo....I wanted to talk a little bit about disappointment. A lot of times we find ourselves disappointed when we are always going above and beyond to make someone feel loved or special and when we don't get back what we think we should get we find ourselves very disappointed. We may even find ourselves feeling vengeful or resentment towards the people we love most.
This morning as I came across this particular inspiration I had an ahha moment. I will always go beyond the call of duty to make sure things are perfect, special and unique. I always want the person receiving to feel like they are my absolute world in that particular moment; when I don't feel like I get that back my feelings are hurt. Can anyone else out in the world relate to how I am feeling?
The problem is that we have an expectation on how our love should be received and in return given back. I know for me if I give I give all of me, then I want you to give all of you back to me. That's not fair because they may be giving all of them back to me at their own capacity. I am not in relationship with myself; I am in relationship with others, that's the key. We can't expect the other person to be just like us; that's what makes us special. What makes them special is that they give in their own way, but we are too busy judging and expecting it to be like our way. What an amazing observation....If we start to let go of expectation and judgment we may start to appreciate what one offers and be able to love and accept gracefully and gratefully. This will allow for a much more loving relationship rather than a difficult one. I know my husband will appreciate this...ahahahah.
Starting with today, let's start practicing letting go of expectation and judgment. Lets start practicing accepting and loving so that we are happier and content. I just love this blog, I truly learn from my ahha moments and I love sharing them. I hope you are all enjoying this blog as much as I am writing it....however no expectation or judgment here.
Until we meet again....
With all my love...Rita