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Believe in YOU and Change YOUR WHOLE WORLD!!!

12/13/2018

Good morning my friends…I hope you are finding yourselves awesome this beautiful morning.

I came across an old inspiration I shared this day in 2014; “Whatever you believe about yourself on the inside, you will manifest on the outside.” What an amazing thought.

When you wake up each and every morning filled with negative, loathing and unproductive thoughts, you are actually creating your day. When you wake up each and every morning filled with positive, loving and productive thoughts, you are creating your day.

This morning came very fast and early. When I awoke and moved my body I had a bad headache, I quickly grabbed some head pain relief and laid back down. As I laid there, I felt like I needed to get up and start moving; I needed to start my day no matter what. So I did.

I got the coffee going, kitties fed, breakfast made and into the shower I went. However, that was not all I did. Yesterday, I bought the kittens a scratch house, so I put that together for them before I entered the shower. When I was done, I realized my headache was not as bad as when I awoke. I found that when you put your energy toward something different then what is happening around you, you actually change how you are feeling immediately.

When I went to bed last night, I was so tired; I don’t think I moved all night. I stayed in one weird position all night, and when I awoke my head was killing me. I have gotten into the practice of being different in my daily activities since I have been on my own; and I am so glad I can acknowledge my progress. How I feel on the inside is literally reflecting my outside.

This is something that is so important to understand; when you live a life of doom and gloom, that’s all you have around you. When you are in a situation where you are not inspired to live fully, your outside reflects that; it will feel like you can’t deal with anything. But, when you start to change how you feel about yourself, your life feels so much easier than you ever dreamed.

This year I made huge changes; I decided to divorce and I turned 50, moved into my own place and showed myself I can do anything. Every day I wake up feeling amazing, even when I am sick, I still feel good; this is something I have never experienced in my life. I challenge myself every day, and I acknowledge and celebrate all my accomplishments; I do it out loud as well. I don’t care who hears.

This is something for us all to start practicing; start to really love yourself more than your current circumstances. Love yourself so much you will do whatever it takes to live your life powerfully. Love yourself so much you change the way you look at life and respond. Love yourself so much your whole world is changing right before your eyes; everything you ever dreamed of, you are receiving all of your life desires.

Just Rita Real Talk

December 12th, 2018

12/12/2018

Good morning my beautiful friends…OMG…I can’t believe how this years is coming to a close so quickly.

It has been a year of so much growth for so many, however, many don’t see it as growth; they see it as “what happened to me.”

I picked today’s inspiration because it speaks volumes with just a few words. The smartest thing anyone can ever learn; is not to need anyone. Men and women together think they need each other to be whole and to be taken care of. People will get into relationships that they know are not the best for them, or they will feel obligated.

We really only need ourselves to live, we have all the tools inside of us to succeed. However, we are taught our whole life we are not worthy or good enough; that we need a partner to be complete. When we start to get up in age, we start to feel the pressure of finding someone or else there is something wrong…

When we are able to be whole and complete with ourselves and take care of our person, we are then ready to be with another. We will then be with our partner because we want to be there, not because we have to be there.

I look at my own personal life with two marriages that did not work; I am 50 years old and finally on my own. I am realizing more and more how important it is too raise men and women who can stand in their own power and live extraordinary lives. We need to start thinking about how to change our views and perspectives so our kids can change theirs.

I think that when we start to love ourselves and know that no matter what happens we can do it, there will be less devastation in our world. So many of us become victims of circumstance; I am finally starting to get it. Taking care of me and knowing I am whole and complete on my own, I feel empowered. I am happy to be with my own person for quite a while and learn what I like and don’t like. The next person who I spend time with will be someone who wants to participate and yet still be independent.

I am so excited for what is to come…Learning to take care of me and not depend on another is an amazing experience. We should all do it, not just women.

Have an amazing day my friends.

Just Rita Real Talk

Take every opportunity to respond positively...you will change your whole world.

12/6/2018

Good morning my friends…I hope you are all finding yourselves well this Thursday morning.

I came across today’s inspiration on Facebook, and I feel like with Christmas upon us, we can all use some tools in our pockets.

As we start to go to parties, and celebrate the end of the year, we come across a lot of people who have nothing good to say; most of those people are our own families. It is never too early to prepare for these occasions.

As you start to interact with the naysayers, it is always a great idea to have an escape plan. When you are coming from a place of love, and know how you are going to keep moving forward, there seems to be less, casualties. When you come from a place of responding instead of reacting, you tend to leave any situation and the offender feeling loved instead of hurt or angry.

We all have people in our lives that have nothing good to say. They see the world as bleak and dismal as possible; however, we can always have patients and love them anyway. We don’t have to leave them with more evidence nothing ever works out for them.

When we are able to anticipate the conversation, we can come up with quick things to say that will leave them thinking, and you have escaped the dismal conversation. When you can wrap up their sad conversation, with something positive; you can walk away quickly, and leave them agreeable. It will leave you in a happier state than if you would have not prepared.

When you start to respond differently, you will start to attract new people to you…the ones who are inspired, passionate, motivated, grateful and open minded.

Have an amazing day my friends.

Just Rita Real Talk

Bring Love into your Life and Holiday Season!!!

12/5/2018

Good afternoon my beautiful friends…I hope you are finding yourselves well and feeling fantastic.

This time of year we are trying to end the year, get ready for the holidays, get caught up on the bills, and do whatever it takes to get into the New Year; which leaves us happy, sad, and or crazy.

When you look at that statement and really ponder it, it leaves me feeling exhausted. It’s like we are so focused we forget what this time of year is all about. It’s a time where we need to start slowing down, start appreciating the year and all the celebrations around us; start to spend the time with our loved ones and plan for the new up-coming year.

Love is all around us, at every given moment; but we don’t take the time to notice. We get bogged down with all the he said/she said, along with every little thing that has become so offensive. We worry about so many things, because we are not paying attention to our own lives; we are so worried about everybody else. The crazy thing is, if we could just stop and pay attention to our own selves, we would actually be able to see the love around us.

Think about it…It may not be you, but how many people are so worried about what you are doing? How many times are people trying to keep up with each other, and don’t even stop to look at what they already have? Right? I am thinking and writing "It’s A Wonderful Life" popped into my head when Pete told his Dad George about the neighbors new car, and George blew a gasket…Now, I am not going crazy and saying in the movie it was about keeping up with the jones’…but George said, “Isn’t our car good enough?” This is just an example, as I am clarifying it…but this is how our world has become.

Look at the show majority of us grew up with, “Rudolf the Red Nose Reindeer”; now that show has been labeled offensive along with the Christmas song, “Baby it’s Cold Outside”. When does it stop, when can we just start to see things the way they were meant to be and quit looking at everything as if someone is deliberately trying to hurt us.

We need to start to look at everything through love glasses, become tolerant and patient and not make everything about alterier motives to hurt people. Now, I get it; there are things and people out there to cause harm, however we need to quit making everything a problem.

Let’s bring in love, let’s bring in happiness, and let’s bring in joy. Let’s finish this year strong and enjoy what we have in front of us. No matter what the situation, let’s look at the bigger picture and see what we can be grateful for.

Enjoy the rest of your day.

Just Rita Real Talk

What your tears are really doing for you....

11/30/2018

Good morning my beautiful friends…I hope you are all enjoying the last day of November.

The other day I wrote about happy tears, and today I came across this inspiration about tears; don’t deny your tears any longer.

Tears are such a freeing experience when you allow them to flow. As I sit here really thinking about when I cry, I really do feel better after. I feel like I have released stagnate emotions that need to be forced out with a good cry. It’s almost like I am re-inspired to deal with the situation at hand.

I am thinking back with situations in my life where I lost it, crying uncontrollably and feeling silly when I was done. Almost like, I am too old to be crying. I have even let some people tell me I should not be crying and to quit being so dramatic. When I look at those people, I actually feel sorry for them because they are not able to express their own emotions. It’s that saying “what you don’t like in yourself, you get angry at the person in front of you”…however, “it’s what you deny in yourself, you make not like in someone else who is able to express themselves.”

We truly are mirrors with eye balls and emotions. We need to learn how to express our feelings and emotions, so we can teach our children it is okay. I am so grateful I have shown my son it is okay to cry and show his emotions. He is someone who is able to be patient and loving when he is around people who express their emotions. Sometime we all need a good cry. Men in general have not been given the permission to cry…It is time you guys give yourself the permission to cry. Men have been taught to be tough and deal with whatever comes up…however, a lot of men don’t know how to release their emotions and become angry and violent.

We are at a time in life where everything is the same and yet very different from long ago. People are becoming tolerant and less judgmental, and yet we are still told to quick crying and deal with whatever is upsetting us. It’s time that we start to give our own self permission to express our emotions so we can have the gift of learning and growing. We will be able to see different perspectives of any given situation if we just allow ourselves to express our emotions and feelings.

My friends today learn how to let the tears flow…no matter what the situations, happy or sad, let the tears flow. You will experience freedom when you do.

Have an amazing day.

Just Rita Real Talk

Happy Tears...

11/28/2018

Good morning my friends…Happy Wednesday!!!

Have you ever just cried for no reason and you realized they are happy tears? That is what I am feeling right now. It seems like no matter what we go through it always turns out for our highest good, even though it may not always feel that way.

My life has taken so many difficult twists and turns, and I can sit here honestly and say “I would not change a thing”. It is such an amazing feeling to realize how many extraordinary people are in my life. I think about my son and realize he is right where he needs to be, with an extraordinary woman who loves him just as much as he loves her. I can even be on friendly terms with my ex-husband, which makes life so much easier.

Everything that has gone on in my life has all been for this moment, right here and right now. I sit here in a pool of love and admiration for myself, because I never gave up. I kept moving forward, even when it was the worst of times, I kept going.

It really does not matter how bleak things look and feel, most of the time we create it to be worse than what it is. Now, saying that, I know there are great tragedies that people have gone through, I included; but it has all made us who we are. We can help in ways that others cannot, we can make people see they will get through their tough times as well. When one sacrifices, it’s because they will help someone who really needs it in their future.

Look at all the things you have been through…look at all the people you have been able to help including your own family because of what you have been through. It is all life lessons for us, so we can always help others move through their lives. We are given many blessings that come in horrible, terrifying packages, but what we teach is extraordinary lessons.

I look at my own life; I have made some of the toughest decisions that at the time burned bridges and hurt like hell. However, looking back, best decisions for my life and my son’s life; I would not change one thing. My son has turned out to be one of the most caring, loving and patient men I could hope to find for me. It is when we look back and see how it all works; at 50 years old, I am starting to see how it all makes sense.

My friends start to see your life differently. Don’t get hung up on what is happening right now, it is only temporary; but the rewards are great when you see the big picture.

I love each and every one of you. Happy Holidays…

Just Rita Real Talk

Dysfunction...How do we change it?

11/26/2018

Good morning my friends…I hope you are finding yourselves safe and at peace. I hope your Thanksgiving was amazing and full of love and family.

Today’s quote is all about Family Dysfunction…this is the time of year when it really kicks up into gear. The holidays seem to make it more prevalent than any other part of the year. It is almost like the stress of the holidays really takes a toll on people and creates drama no matter where you turn; not even I am free of it.

I grew up in a house hold where family dysfunction was always the worst at the holidays, for some reason the fights were the worst. When you try to keep it all together and hide the emotions, you add so much stress to yourself; you may not even realize it. You try to make everything perfect, anticipate everyone’s needs, and try to keep the pressure at a dull roar, but for some reason the fighting will come out.

It takes one person to stop the madness. It takes one person to not react and only lovingly respond. It takes one person to say “I love you”. It takes one person to say this is not how it is going to go. It takes one person to change their behavior so someone else can start to change theirs.

One person can make all the difference in the world, if the one person chooses. However, the choice is a huge decision; it does not come lightly. You are literally deciding to take what comes to you, so the others can make a change or calm down. Sometimes, it will take a strong person to be the sounding board, so your loved one can get out all the deep rooted emotions that are erupting. It is not an easy spot to be in; however you will be making changes in your life, along with everyone else around you.

I have truly learned to be the person who wants others to be a peace; I can’t sit by and watch anyone suffer. I will be the one who will take one for the team, so you can get to the root of what is truly bothering you. Sometimes I am left wounded, but the love I have for my family and friends is worth it.

What are you going to do in your life? Are you ready to be the one standing in front of the flames, so you can change yourself and the people around you? Will you be the example that everyone else can follow? These are amazing questions; think about it…what is your answer?

Today be the change in your life that you want to see around you. Allow this part of the year to be the best part you have experienced. Allow all the things you have learned throughout the year be taught to everyone around you.

Have an amazing day my friends.

Just Rita Real Talk

Start Living Your Own Life...Don't WAIT...

11/20/2018

Good morning my friends…I hope you are all finding yourselves well this beautiful crisp morn.

We are right on the cusp of Thanksgiving, which means that the Holidays are definitely upon us. We are all scrambling to make everything perfect and end the year better than we did last year. We start to think about what we did not accomplish and how we never get what we want. We start to beat ourselves up for all the missed opportunities and adventures we did not say yes too.

Why is it that we are so hard on ourselves every day of every year? Why can’t we just one time realize how far we have come and how much we have actually accomplished? Why do we measure ourselves up to all the perceived failures we have had?

Think about these questions for a minute…Why do we? Who taught us how to loath so much about ourselves? Who put the bar so high that it is difficult to achieve the standards in our life?

All the answers reside in our own self; we have taught our own self we are not good enough to do something on our own, we must follow others. We have our own special gifts and talents; even though someone else has done something it does not mean we can only follow others. We have the ability to pave our own way. There is more than one way to do any given thing; we just have to have the courage to do it our way.

Once we start to live on our own terms and not everyone else’s terms, we will be truly living our own lives. We don’t have to wait, we can start living right now; calling our own shots and making our own choices and sticking to what we want.

It’s time for us to start looking at what it is that we want in our lives and what we want to create. We need to quit listening to everything that does not fall into our plan. We all have our own ways of living…let’s quit judging and start doing what is for our own highest good.

Don’t wait til tomorrow, START RIGHT NOW!!!

Have an amazing day my friends.

Just Rita Real Talk

Giving yourself permission may not be an easy task, but a must!!!

11/19/2018

Good morning my friends…I hope each and every one of you is having an amazing Monday.

Today’s inspiration is so important to me; I had to give myself permission to be however I wanted…that was not an easy task for me.

We sometimes find ourselves always looking for permission to do whatever it is that we want to do. Most of us never realize we don’t need permission from someone, who we need permission from is ourselves. Now, when I say this, I get we have families…I can hear the arguments now; but, we are always our own person. We need to give ourselves permission to be happy even with our families.

We are all here for a reason, a journey that most of us forget about. We feel that once we are married with children our lives no longer have the right to pursue our passions. That is not true…we should still pursue our passions, because, we will be teaching our children to always go after your dreams.
We don’t have to wait for our children to get older, or any other circumstance that would allow us to give our self, permission to live.

When I finally decided to divorce, get my own place and live on my own terms; there was years of torment before those decisions. I was waiting for permission from my son, my friends; I did not realize I could give myself permission to be happy. I knew that I would be disappointing a lot of people, never mind that I was always disappointed.

This is not uncommon unfortunately; most of us deny ourselves happiness because of who we may hurt. Most of us spend the rest of our lives being miserable and blaming others for what we were not able to achieve. Start saying yes to yourself; the details will work themselves out.

Don’t live your life not being responsible for every yes you denied yourself. Start living your life and give yourself permission to live.   Don’t worry about what others think or say; we all have a journey here on earth, saying yes is part of the journey. Be responsible in how you proceed but say yes. Teach your children no matter what, say yes. Live your life and be happy, when your happy so is everyone else around you for your highest good. If they are not, you have some work to do.

Have a great day my friends…

Just Rita Real Talk

Life is an amazing journey too your true self...

11/16/2018

Good morning my friends…I hope you are all finding yourselves well.

I came across this quote today on Facebook…Thank you Terri Wilson for sharing the quote; “I traveled through madness to find me”.

It is such a beautiful quote and deep meaning quote for me. I have been on this journey my whole life, and where I am today; I couldn’t be happier. I am finally discovering who my true self is. Now, I am not saying do what I did, what I am saying is; start to give yourself the time and love to discover your true self. Don’t let anyone tell you NO or You are Crazy.

We are all on our own journey, even though we are with our families. Each and every one of us has to discover our true potential and what it is that we are here to learn and share. We have very special gifts each and every one of us, and if we don’t discover what our gifts are; we are never truly happy.

It is okay to have a family and take care of yourself at the same time. When you set the standards for yourself, everyone and everything will start to fall into place. You will also be setting limitations, boundaries for people and teaching your loved ones to do the same.

When we start to really look at our own life, we can make adjustments, and our families will start to learn from us and do the same. We are teaching by example and helping our families, our children learn that we can be different from everyone else. That we can be very powerful in the way we choose to live our lives and how we are treated.

I want to leave you with one more thought; everything you have ever been through has gotten you where you are today. Don’t wish for something to have changed; you went through what you need to learn to grow. Congratulate yourself, celebrate yourself, and love yourself for being who you are today.

Have an amazing day my friends…

Just Rita Real Talk

Rita OWEN

I have been through a lot in my life just as everyone else; I have found that what I have gone through has always been for my highest good. There is not a thing that I would change in my life; I would keep the good, the bad, and the ugly.

Sharing my lessons with you helps me to be the best version of myself. What I have learned, I share so you are the best version of yourself.

When we stand together we are strong and tall making a more confident and loving world. We are forgiving our past and embracing all that is learned. We then are teaching our children to be human and the best version of themselves.

Rita Owen

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