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What you resist will persist...but don't get lost in it.

6/12/2019

Good afternoon my friends. I hope you are finding yourselves well on this beautiful Wednesday afternoon.

I came across this inspiration today and it left me remembering how I used to be in life. I was remembering how I would stay stuck in my story of what happened to me, and get so angry that it would leave me feeling lost and incomplete. I would blame my problems on everyone without taking responsibility for my own actions.

When I started to really look at where my life was headed, I was not happy. I hit road block after road block. I thought the world was literally against me for whatever it was that I did. I always felt like punishments were always being doled out to me. It was not a good life to live.

One of the most precious days of my life was a mentor of mine telling me to pull my head out of my ass. She said "Nothing is happening to me, it is all happening for me." I didn't understand what she was saying. She had no idea what I had been through and was still going through. I thought it was so unfair to be judged that way. Yes, my feathers were ruffled for sure and my mentor knew it. However, she also explained to me why everything was actually happening for me instead of to me.

Everything that I had ever been through in my life was all for learning so I can be powerful in my life. She made me really think about it before I could even say a word. She had me read a couple of books so I understood exactly where she was coming from. One book was the "Prayer of Jabez", a book that allowed for me to ask for what I wanted. All I had to do is love myself enough to realize that no matter what has happened in my life, I have always been receiving wisdom through experience. The other book was "The Four Agreements", now that was a book that allowed me to dive right into self-development. I could not get enough. Everything started to make sense to me; not right away, but eventually. I was able to see all the lessons I had to go through in life, so I could be the person I am today. Everything I had ever gone through was not for nothing, even thou I did not understand it at the time, I look at my life now and what I do, I would never change a thing.

I was able to learn that everything has some sort of purpose. How we deal with it will allow us to suffer or not, we always have a choice. I had chosen a life of suffering until my mentor helped me see that there are always choices. What I choose is my responsibility no matter what. I can suffer or not; I had to choose. Eventually I chose not to suffer and my life started to change.

I look at everything I have been through, all the knowledge I have gained through it all. I can help so many people because of all the suffering I have been through in my life. I chose my life. I had to be responsible for all my decisions. When I was able to acknowledge and be responsible, life got so much easier. I began to learn faster, and get rewarded in ways I never knew I actually deserved. I am so grateful for my entire life.

Look at your life. What is it that you are holding on to that you are lost in the emotions? Start to look at different perspectives as to why you went through something. There is always something for us to learn and teach. It all depends when we decide to stop the blame game and take responsibility of our actions. I get things actually happen to us, some out of our control, but even still find the lesson. You will be grateful that you did.

Just Rita Real Talk

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Feed Yourself The Love You Need...See What Happens!

6/5/2019

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Good morning my friends...I hope you are all finding yourselves well today. It's a beautiful day, the sun is shining and hopefully the rain stays away for a bit.

Have you ever stopped and thought about how you think and talk? Have you ever noticed how you react to things instead of responding to them in a different way? Have you ever noticed how much you attract the stuff into your life that you don't want?

When I think about those questions, I am looking at my life and who I am being in the moments that matter. I used to be someone who would agree with someone else's attitude and draw that energy into mine. You know what I am talking about; the ones who say nothing good happens to them, or if it will happen it will happen to them. Then I would start to notice that I would start to have crappy things happen to me.

One of the hardest things I had to learn was changing my language and how I talked to myself. When I agreed with someone's negative attitude, I would notice the same things happening to me. When I started to say to myself, "that may be true for you, but it is not true for me" I would change the way things were happening around me. I would notice that their energy was not leaking into mine. I also noticed how much happier I was becoming.

When you start to really pay attention to what you think and say, and you start to change your behavior; your whole world will change very quickly. I have been practicing this new way of being for the past couple of years. I have to say the more I see everything from a different perspective; I am not suffering in my life. I find that my world is becoming what I have always desired. I attract the people in my life who will keep my vibration high. I attract the love that I have always been longing for my entire life.

One thing that has really come into my life is love. As I have really started to say loving kind things to myself and really believe it, I have been able to attract the kind of love I have always desired. I have received the most beautiful man into my life, because he matches the love I have for myself. It's as if God place the most precious gift right in front of me. I am at a place in my life where I now only speak love into me, and I have received someone in my life that is showing me what true love is. I have never experienced love from someone as I am with this amazing man. When I brought my son into this world that was the first time I experienced; a mother's love. I have two very special men in my life that are showing me things about love I never knew could be possible.

When you start to look at everything in your life from a different perspective and see the lesson in all of it...you get to receive gifts you never would have imagined. I am so grateful at this time in my life. The world that is swirling around me is amazing and I would never change a thing in my life.

Take a look at how you think and speak, along with looking at a situation that is going on in your life. Where can you make some changes so you can be experiencing the very best?

Have an amazing day my friends.

Just Rita Real Talk

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Who's with you on your journey?

5/22/2019

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Good morning my beautiful friends; I trust you are all finding yourselves well.

Have you ever put yourself in a position of expecting someone to be on your journey with you? I have. We work so hard in our lives, wanting, waiting for everything to work out for us. When we suffer or feel like we will never get what we want, we start to put expectations on people. We want people to do what we want and that's it...however the people are doing the exact same thing. We are having a tug-of-war with everyone around us.

My question, who is really on your journey? We are all on our own journey. I think we are to be learning patience and see how we can help each other out along the way. I recently started to date and put myself on an app. What's funny is that I have been imposing what I want on people. I want someone who it going to be with me on my journey, as I would be with them on theirs. However, I am realizing the only one on my journey is me. I can have people walk with me, participate with me; but I am on my own quest as the people around me are on theirs. We are all actually helping people along as they are helping us.

It sounds confusing; however, when you really think about what you are up too, is it your dream or someone else's. You have to really think about it for a second, because we make ourselves miserable when we think we are not getting what we want. I am on my own journey, doing my own thing and figuring it out. I have people coming into my life showing me what I deserve and don't deserve. It really is quite an amazing space to be in. I am coming to the realization that whoever is in my life may not be there forever, so it is so important to take advantage of the moments we have.

In this time in my life I am starting to look and see who I want to have in my life. What's important is who will compliment my life, not take it over or do my life for me, as I would not do for them. Even though people come together, we need to remember we are still on our own journeys. Sometimes we mesh, and sometimes we don't. We need to learn patience and compassion with each other.

It's so funny how all of a sudden we will see an inspiration and it puts everything you are doing into perspective. No matter what we are doing in our lives, we are in charge of our life, our journey. No one can tell us what we can or can't do. We just have to make the best decisions for ourselves and continue the walk. We will never be alone.

Just Rita Real Talk

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May 15th, 2019

5/15/2019

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Good morning my friends...I hope you are all finding yourselves happy and well.

I love inspirations, especially the ones that have a huge impact on me. When I know they touch my heart, I know someone in my circle somewhere needs to see it.

The one major thing I teach people is to realize that everything that has occurred in their life has been for their highest good. We may not understand it at the time of the even but we will understand it in hindsight.

When you are able to look at a situation, and see it from multiple perspectives you then can see the lesson. You will then see there is a bigger picture to everything that happens in our lives. Most things we have been through have been a lesson to teach. We are the students and our teachers come in all different types of situations. When you can look at your life and where you have been, you can see that everything has prepared you for today.

Never regret a day in your life. You can never be who you are today without all that has been in your life. You have learned so much from your past, you need all of it to be who you are.

Good days give happiness, bad days give experience, worst days give lessons and best days give memories. Every single thing has taught you so much. The problem is; we take advantage of all of it. We don't take time to celebrate, smell the roses, and take in all the beauty around us. When things seem difficult or bad, we only see what is in front of us. We forget that there has been much more good than bad in our lives.

Now, when I say that, I know there are plenty who have been through hell and back. However, when saying that, most times, lessons are being ignored or we are too afraid to do something different. We have to learn stand up and start making changes for ourselves, even when things almost impossible.

I have seen some pretty bad stuff in my day, along with experiencing some crap; however, I could never be me without it all. I learned how I want to be in life and how I want to treat others. I have also learned how strong and creative I am because of it all. When we accept where we have been, where we are going is so much brighter.

Love all of your life. Take it all in. See the lesson and how well you have handled it. You will be amazing at who you truly are.

Just Rita Real Talk

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Are you strong or weak...only you get to decide.

5/13/2019

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Good morning my friends, I hope you are all finding yourselves well.

I came across this inspiration today and I wanted to share it with all of you. Every day we are dealing with challenges that we may not always understand. This inspiration spoke very loudly to me.

I have been doing a lot in the past year with my life. I became unmarried, I live on my own, creating my business, paying bills, and recently started dating, along with publishing my first book. A lot has gone on in the past year. I am also taking myself to Italy in July. A lot...Right?

When we start living our lives, things start to fall into place pretty quickly; obstacles can come to us just as fast. As I am doing all these different things, I have also had to deal with road blocks. I have had to deal with setbacks, shortages...you know the everyday life stuff. What I have started to realize is how strong I really am.

When you start to live your journey, you will also have a lot coming at you that may decide whether you move forward or quit. I have found that I am a lot stronger than I thought I was. Next month I will be in my place for 1 year...I can't believe how fast the time went, and yet I have been able to support myself and keep myself going. I find myself tired but waking up happy and knowing I can do anything I set my mind too. I have realized how amazing I truly am, and the only obstacle that is in front of me, is what I have put there.

Every day we are going through something, how we perceive it and react to it will determine how we respond. When you can step back and look at the bigger picture, and see there is more going on than what is in front of you; you can then decide how you will respond. Most of us live miserable lives because we refuse to look at the bigger picture. We would rather be unhappy and make the people around us miserable, because we are afraid to be any different.

Have you ever just had that one person, who is around you, no matter how wonderful thing are, they are always miserable and unhappy. The person seems to think nothing ever good happens to them, that if it’s going to be bad, it will happen to them? We all have someone around us who are like that. It gets to be draining and if you are not careful, you will start to take on their negativity and think the same way.

This inspiration is so important to really absorb. We are always being tested, but it's not the way we think it is. When you start to see different perspectives in your life, you will start to see that everything is actually happening for your highest good. You start to see how you have made better choices for yourself because of the experiences you have had. For me, seeing how strong I am, and how I am not letting the little stuff keep me down, and when the big stuff comes about, it's like a piece of cake. I can deal with the stress as if it is really no big deal.

When you come across obstacles, take a deep breath and really look at the situation. How are you responding? How are you feeling? Are you seeing you are better than the situation? Most importantly, are you seeing you can handle the situation without a lot of drama?

Today, look at everything that transpires in our day, and see it happening for you instead of against you.

Have a great day my friends.

Just Rita Real Talk

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Opening your mind will help heal what you see.

5/3/2019

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Good morning my beautiful friends. I was scrolling through my memories on Facebook and came across this particular inspiration. It means so much to me, since I almost went blind a couple of years ago.

"The eyes are useless when the mind is blind...” What a profound statement, and for me has been true. When I look at my life from just a couple of years ago, I found that I was losing eyesight in my right eye. At first I ignored it until a friend of mine said to get it checked out. So, I did...after that all hell broke loose.

When I finally got my eyes checked I found out that I was sick and I had too much spinal fluid building up behind my eyes causing the blindness. I could not believe what was happening. I had to go and get a spinal puncture and be hospitalized to get everything under control. It was an experience I would not wish on anyone. I can't tell you how many spinal punctures I had including a brain surgery. It was one of the most terrifying things I had to go through. I was told that over time my vision in my right eye would come back.

As I waited for my eye to heal, the same thing happened to my left eye. I had to start the whole process all over again, minus the surgery. It was so frustrating, especially getting a lot more spinal punctures done to drain the excess fluid.

One day, I was feeling sorry for myself and I asked "Why ME?" My Angels responded to me, you know longer want to see the life you are living. You are ready to see your life differently. I could not believe what I was hearing. If I was completely honest with myself, it was true.

I had a sinus surgery that helped significantly with the problem and I decided to change my life. I opened my mind to the possibilities of being happy and having the courage to take the steps. Since then I have become unmarried, living in my own space loving every day of my life. I have noticed that my right eye can see normally and my left eye is so much better.

As I saw my memory, I look at where I am today and how much fun I am having. Everything around me may not be perfect but it's a life I enjoy seeing. The more I am honest with who I am and what I want, my vision gets better and better with each passing day. I have opened my mind and my soul to many great possibilities in my life. Look around your life; what don't you want to see? What do you want to see in your life? Have the courage to take that first step towards happiness. You won't regret it.

Just Rita Real Talk

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Be the love to YOU that you want to see in the World.

4/30/2019

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Good morning my friends, I hope you are all finding yourself well.

I love this inspiration and I wanted to share it with you. We all have some sort of struggle that we say horrible things to ourselves and beat our person up. We don't realize when we do that, we are speaking an untruth to ourselves.

There are so many things that we experience in the world that is sad and tragic. We need to really start to look at who we truly are and start appreciating our gifts and talents. We need really dive into why we make ourselves so bad and wrong, and turn it around.

When we start to really dive into ourselves and start to see greatness instead of despair, we can then start to love ourselves. When we love ourselves we can start to love others. We will start to build each other up instead of tearing each other down.

Let's start to take care of our person, and be at peace with whatever it is that we don't agree with. Or when we start to see a bigger picture, let's celebrate our person and know we are right where we need to be.

We should all love who we are. We are all very unique individuals who have their own journey on this planet. We were not made the same on purpose. Let’s start to really appreciate, accept who we are wholly and live our lives as if there were no judgement in the world.

Think about it, children teach us so many wonderful lessons. They don't know if their skin color is different. They don't know if they are beautiful or not, they just love themselves whole heartedly. They don't judge themselves, or say cruel things to their person either. Over time they are taught that they are not good enough and fall into the trap.

That is who we are, the children that have fallen into the trap. Pull yourself out and start to love who you are. Be easy with yourself, and give you the best love you've got.

Just Rita Real Talk

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Expectations...good or bad?

4/19/2019

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Good afternoon my friends...I hope you are all finding yourselves well. It's Good Friday, many have the day off for reflection and getting ready for Easter. I wish each and every one of you a safe and loving Easter.

Allowing new beginnings to come into your life is not always the easiest thing to do. As we start to make changes, we allow ourselves to become vulnerable. We start to project what it is we are up to too the world. It is a very scary time.

When we take that step, we also have an expectation of how we want things to go. We see it in our minds eye so we can create what it is we want. Sometimes we get so fixated on the creation of how it should look, along with how it should go; we miss out in the journey.

I have been doing a lot of new things in my life these days. I am allowing myself to date, along with having my book published, and really creating my business. I have been taking the steps to walk into the unknown and keep moving forward. it has been scary but very rewarding at the same time. Although, I have found my expectations are very strong.

This morning I was finishing up some details on my book and I realized maybe this is not such a good idea. I have reread my book over and over; I continually make little changes so it would be perfect. My publisher started to message me while I was working. I told her I was rereading it again, that I will get my book back to her this afternoon. I thought that she would say "ok" and that would be the end of the conversation. Not the case.

Dolly, my publisher was asking me some questions, as I answered her honestly. I told her I was very nervous, that I have been putting a lot of pressure and expectation on myself. She told me to stop, that it will be great, and I need to be my number one fan. I am my number one fan, however as I am truly creating the life, I have always dreamed for myself, I am becoming terrified and allowing myself to get distracted.

it amazes me how often I can still fall in to old patterns when I know I am doing great things. It's a form of self-sabotage I am doing to myself. If I keep rereading and rewriting, it will never be done. In reality it will never be published, and I will never be able to reach the people who really need my help. I am stepping into my greatness and power so I can be of service to many people who need it. When I start to really see how my dreams are coming true, I start to test myself to see if I am really ready. It's Crazy!!!

When we put expectations on ourselves, it's true, we then are creating resentments to happen, we start to have this huge idea of what it should be, and honestly it shouldn't be any way. It should be exactly as it is. I am finding I have been comparing myself to other people, authors, writers. Who am I to do this? The answer, who am I not to do this?

I am doing it my way, my words, my ideas...how it flows so it shall be. Look at your life, where are your expectations? Are they making you miserable? Or, are they making you happy and successful? I have been making myself a little miserable...I had to let it go and just send my book. However, it happens, that's how it shall be.

Take this time to reflect on yourself. What is it that you are expecting of yourself and others? Have you set the bar too high for anyone to touch, or are you right where you need to be? Think about, figure it out and start living.

Just Rita Real Talk

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Living Your Best YOU!

4/17/2019

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Good morning my beautiful friends...It's been a while since I have blogged. I am finally settling into my new life and things are becoming quite magical.

Have you ever notice when you start to really become confident in who you are, your whole life changes? This is what has been happening with me. I have all these ideas and plans, but I had to go deep within myself to pull it all out. I have been learning who I am and what I am all about. It has been a time in my life that I am quite surprised how I am evolving.

I truly love everything that I am doing. I wake up each and every day feeling as if the sun is always shining down on me. I finally have such a love for myself, that I can see all my dreams are coming true.

I have written my first book, it’s just about ready to be published. I am seeing clients and helping them in ways, I could have only imagined in my past life. I have energy and vitality that is larger than life. I see every day as if it I have never seen a day before in my life. I can see how my journey has become one of the most beautiful experiences I could have only imagined.

I find the more I am my true self, the more my silly playful self comes out. I enjoy laughing in ways I have not laughed in a long time. My energy shines and radiates all around me. It's funny watching people walk past me and asks "What's so funny"? My response is "there's a party going on in my head". I really am finding that life is so beautiful and full of joy if you allow yourself to experience it.

I love this beautiful butterfly in the inspiration...It speaks volumes to how I allow myself to be. Enjoy your day my friends...I am getting back on track so be ready!!! Lot's to come!!!

Just Rita Real Talk

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Start to see the joy in your life...you will see the plan isn't that bad...

1/16/2019

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Good morning my friends, I hope you are finding yourselves feeling amazing this beautiful crisp day.

I came across this inspiration today, “Sometimes you have to let go of what you thought life would be like, and learn to find joy in the story you are actually living.” What a great thought to ponder.

Every day I am in my life, I have good days and bad days…but the bad days are nothing compared to what someone else may be going through. I look at where I am at in life, it was not in the plan but here I am. I am with myself, in my own space with two kitties figuring it all out.

Now, I could be living my life like a victim and being angry, not caring and just giving up; or as I am doing, I am living my life as powerful as I can to keep moving forward. Trust me; I talk myself off the ledge often. I rationalize situations in my life so I become powerful in the moment and not beat myself up. I have to tell myself to be patient; everything comes in Diving Planning and Timing.

I am taking the moments to the days, to the weeks and so on, to really appreciate who I am. What is it that I actually want in my life; who do I want in my life, and most importantly how am I growing to be the best version of who I am.

It is the New Year; we all have an opportunity to take full advantage of new beginnings, new ways of thinking, new ways of speaking, and new ways of being. We have this opportunity to change what we don’t like and start to change our story into the one we desire. The question you have to ask yourself is, are you truly ready to change your story, or are you still going to talk about how it doesn’t work. Even when there is a lot of stress in ones’ life you can still find moments in your life when you were happy.

Here is our problem; when we have a lot of stress, drama, heartache we can’t find anything in our lives that actually work. We see everything as doom and gloom…we can’t seem to get past what is in front of our face. One thing for us to start realizing as soon as we can is to think about all the things we can be grateful for. I know it sounds silly, but when you start to count all the things that are working it makes you see some joy in your life. You will also start to realize you have the tools you need to get through anything that is going on in your life. Also, you will realize everything is temporary; this too shall pass.
Nothing truly works out as our own plan. There is Divine Planning that is going on all around us. We need to go through situations so we can learn and grow. Look at the situation you are currently in, what is it that you need to learn from it. Are you the one who has to learn from the action, or are you a part of someone else’s growth. You have to start looking at all sides of a situation and start to realize everything is happening for you, even if you may not understand at the time.

Whenever we look in hind-sight, we seem to get it…but if you are someone who only sees the negative, you will continue to be stuck and unhappy. Change the way you see the world by changing the way you see yourself in it. Start to see yourself as someone being powerful no matter the situation. You will see the world change all around you.

Have an amazing day!!!

Just Rita Real Talk

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I have been through a lot in my life just as everyone else; I have found that what I have gone through has always been for my highest good. There is not a thing that I would change in my life; I would keep the good, the bad, and the ugly.

Sharing my lessons with you helps me to be the best version of myself. What I have learned, I share so you are the best version of yourself.

When we stand together we are strong and tall making a more confident and loving world. We are forgiving our past and embracing all that is learned. We then are teaching our children to be human and the best version of themselves.

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