Good morning my friends...I hope you are all finding yourselves as well as you can be. This is a crazy time with a lot of emotions running rampant, and we don't always know how to manage how we feel. 
 
We look at positive inspiration all day, hoping it will help us keep our attitude positive.  The reality is, the negative thoughts keep creeping in, and we have to start dealing with our emotions and feelings regardless of keeping our attention somewhere else.  We always perceive those emotions or feelings as unfavorable, because it does not leave us feeling happy, it leaves us with a sense of emptiness.  We tend to be more quiet or melancholy, or we feel like dropping a few tears or maybe not even getting dressed or getting out of bed at all. Either way, all that we are feeling is the right experience we need to deal with.
 
I am someone for the most part, which is a positive person; however, I know that all emotions need to be dealt with; not just the good ones. This is the perfect time to reflect and work on yourself. It's the ideal time to look around and see if this is the life I want, the life I have been working so hard for.  Or is there something else that I desire for my life.  It is also an ideal time to realize that working on some deep-rooted pain and hurts while we are secluded is a hall pass to break down your mental stuff at home.
 
Typically winter is the time to go within and do a lot of resting and soul searching. Still, it seems that we are being forced to really dive deep into ourselves. This COVID 19 has hijacked our Spring, and it's happening all over the world, we are not alone. Such a big planet, and we are literally going through the exact same thing. We need to really start to take advantage of the time we have to really dig deep into what has been plaguing us.
 
I have become dependent, independent, too dependent, too independent my whole life. As I divorced for the second time, I spent a good year by myself, really being with myself learning and growing.  I then decided it was time to invite a partner in my life and start to have fun sharing my experiences.  I have met an extraordinary man who makes me happy, but we are many miles apart.   We have learned to use the calendar to make sure we balance out our time together with work.  To my surprise, COVID 19 has shown me how dependent I have become with my partner.  It has been making me so crazy when I don't get my way.  I have found that my attitude literally sucks when I don't get the communication I want.  I have reverted to a hurt little child having a temper tantrum demanding attention.  As I am writing this, it blows me away how our still wounded selves keep living our lives.
 
Taking the time for your mental health is so crucial during this time.  I work in a lawyer's office...the joke is, in six months there will be a lot of divorces or a lot of pregnancy.  The truth is; however you are dealing with the wounded little person inside of you will determine how you spend this time; loving or fighting.  I have been trying so hard not to fight, but sometimes it will come out.  Just recently, I had to realize that my little wounded self has been coming out to play and to be quite honest, she makes me want to control every situation, so I don't get hurt. 
 
When I try to control every single thing in my life, I become so unhappy.  I worry about if I am good enough, what's wrong with me, what more can I do to be accepted.  This morning while brushing my teeth, my Angels were telling me I need to stop trying to control everything.  I become an over-achiever so that I have value, and I will be kept.  Yes, my abandoned self has joined in the party. 
 
These moments creep in so fast, most times we never see it coming.  Yes, is it essential to stay positive? Yes.  It is also necessary to deal with undesirable emotions, as well.  You will learn so much about yourself, precisely what pains you are still holding on to.
 
Use COVID 19 to make you a better version of your self.  Start to take responsibility for your actions and your emotions.  We all are going through the same thing, let's do it together. 
 
Have a great day, my friends. 
 
​Just Rita

Good afternoon my friends, I hope you are all finding yourselves well.  
I came across this inspiration today, and I felt the need to share it with you. 

Have you ever found yourself defending who you are or what you do for a living when it is no one person business? I have lately. I find it to be very annoying.

I work full-time, along with creating and building my spiritual business. I also have been dealing with a severe knee issue for the past three months. I have worked both my job and my business through all of it.  However, I had a knee replacement last week, and I seem to have a few people telling me how to run my business or if I am still in business at all. It is crazy to me how people will say whatever they feel like without realizing what they are saying to me.

One thing I have realized about this quote is that; no matter how fast or slow you go, it's your speed, your business, your life — no one else's. Too many people either give up on themselves because they listen to the nonsense of others. I have found myself defending my recovery and explaining what I have done with my business to prepare for the surgery.  

When you keep your speed and keep moving forward, you are doing fabulous. Whatever you are recovering from, don't let anyone tell you you should be over it by now. People are not you, and it truly is no one person business how you live or what you do. 

I didn't want this to turn into a rant, but it has. I am someone who has been experiencing a tremendous amount of pain for the past few months, and it amazes me the unsolicited advice I keep getting to get my business going and get over it about my knee.  

I don't complain hardly at all, honestly, who will really listen. I don't really ask for help because, with some people, you will owe them. But yet, I still manage to find people who are not busy enough moving forward in their own life to advise me on mine.  

Block out the people who are telling you what to do without asking for their opinion. Use the gift God gave you, intuition, and start listening to what your intuition is telling you about your own life. Keep moving forward in your life, no matter how many little steps it takes, how many breaks you take. Moving forward is always moving forward. Even when a spider is spinning her web, she never goes backward, always forward in different directions.

Live your truth, no one else's.

Just Rita Real Talk 

Good morning my friends...I hope you are all finding yourselves well this beautiful morning.  

I came across this inspiration on Facebook today and completely fell in love with it.  I have found myself dealing with a lot this past month and had allowed myself to feel the emotions of it all.  I found myself getting hit from all different directions all at once, I had no idea what was really happening.  

I also found myself going through the emotions; being with everything that has been happening in my own quiet little way.  I cried, screamed, yelled, went within and slept; most of all I decided I was stronger than the forces that were coming at me.

I processed what I needed, controlled my behavior and allowed others to do whatever they felt they needed to do.  I did not respond, carry on, threaten or humiliate anyone.  I did what I needed for my own wellbeing.  What is amazing about that, no matter what was happening, I released the emotion and rose above the drama.  

Can you imagine going through the tough times of your life and rising above.  Not allowing anyone to put you in a situation that would allow you to stoop to the other persons level.  This is what allows us to become stronger than we know our selves to be.  What's important is to know that allowing yourself to go through the emotions, helps you to release the pent-up energy that will eventually cause you more pain.  The stuck energy will cause you to say or do things that you will later regret.  

When you do not react to a situation, go through the emotions, your response will allow you to become better and stronger than you were before.  You will rise above and not allow anyone to take your strength.  It does not matter who the offender is, what matters is who you are through it all, and who you are when it passes.  Everything is temporary, this too shall pass.

The seasons are changing, pressure is on, and behaviors may be running high; remember who you are and where you are headed.  Don't fall into the traps of people trying to keep you where they are at.

Have an amazing weekend my friends...Just Rita Real Talk

Good morning my friends...I hope you are all finding yourselves well.  

This inspiration is amazing.  We never take the moments to realize how we have come through the darkness to make our world wonderful.  We always plug away complaining or crying about how tough things are, but when we are on the other side we don't realize that it was us that transformed to make our situations different.

We all transform into butterflies many times in our lives.  It is time that we stop to realize that it is us who goes within to pull the beauty out of ourselves so we can keep moving forward.  

Have you ever wondered how you got through the things that you have?  Have you ever stopped to think that there was a period of time where you had to go within and really search for the strength to keep going, only to find that you were the magic the whole time? 

We are all butterflies in our lives.  Life allows us to shine beautifully all the time, but we never notice our own beauty.  We never realize that it was our hard work that turned us into the magical creature we truly are.

Start to pay attention to the wonderful things you have been through.  Look at what it is that you did to make everything change in your life.  You will start to see how magnificent you really are.  The beauty inside you shines brighter than anything else.  We are so magical; it would be great if we actually realized it.

Have an amazing day my butterflies.