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Take RESPONSIBILITY in your life no matter what!!!

1/21/2020

Good afternoon my friends. I hope you are all finding yourselves well this sunny Tuesday afternoon.

I came across this inspiration today, and it hit me hard. There are many beautiful things happening in my life, and yet I have so many endings happening at the same time. I find myself sad, angry and disappointed and yet I am happy and ready to live life.

There are so many things that happen in our lives, from the time we are born till present time. We have experienced so many things; it may leave us wondering if we are coming or going. We take every single event very personally and carry it with us to either guard us or prepare us for what may happen. We may find ourselves feeling alone and wondering what it is we are doing.

Have you ever just sat and wondered "What the Hell"?

I have been finding of late, recovering from knee replacement, a little sorry for myself. Some times the pain gets to be a little too much and too often, and I feel crabby and sorry for myself. It's a type of sorry for myself that allows me to look at all the changes that have happened along with trying to figure it all out. But honestly, I think I am doing a lot of grieving for loss of what was and friendships ending. I have been playing situations in my head over and over, trying to figure it all out. When doing that, it pulls me further into the utter sadness of it all.

When I saw this inspiration today, I immediately knew I needed to blog. I needed to get my feelings out and share it with all of you so I can move on. I have to look at myself in situations and be responsible for the changes and the endings. The changes I see have all been for my highest good, and I love it. The end of friendships, it hurts, but it is for my highest good and theirs.

How we respond to any given situation depends upon if we take responsibility in our own lives or not. Honestly, no one can make us feel anyway; we are the ones who can only allow us to feel a particular way. We are the ones with the power and the responsibility to continue to be powerful and strong, even when we don't feel like it.

Also, we need to feel our emotions and feelings. When we don't take responsibility for how we feel, we can not work through them. Most times, we tend to stuff them down, waiting for the shoe to drop; that only makes things worse. When we are responsible for how we are feeling and work through it, that is greatness and courage. We start to see how we are becoming stronger in our lives instead of weaker. The ones who can't handle their emotions suffer a great deal. The ones who deal with their emotions do great things in their lives because they are not afraid.

When you take responsibility in your life, it comes with great power. A power that you never really knew you had.

Take a look at your life. What is it that you keep going over and over in your head? Take the time to be with the situations, look at what your parts were and what you learned. Start to realize how amazing you are and how much stronger and better you are for the situation.

Be responsible for all that happens in your life; it will set you free, and wonderful things will happen.

Just Rita Real Talk

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Getting Through...

1/20/2020

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Good afternoon my friends, I hope you are all finding yourselves well on this beautiful Monday.

I have been finding myself going through a lot of lessons as of late, or maybe I am becoming more aware. At any rate, the experiences have been profound. I have been finding myself doing a lot of soul searching and wondering who it is that I truly am. We all have a way we are trying to be, but I am finding who it is I truly am.

A lot has been happening over the past few months, changes that I never expected, and yet I am grateful that they are happening. I have had to be with myself many times and look at who it is that I am. I realized what I have been asking for has been coming to me in answered prayers. However, the answered prayers are not always the most pleasant.

When I am giving Angel Readings to people, or coaching them, Answered Prayers always comes up. I always say, Answered Prayers comes in a lot of packages that don't always look nice and pretty or dressed up in bows. They come in packages that will help us to continue to keep moving forward no matter what is coming to an end. We finally mastered what we needed, and now it is time to move on.

In my life right now, I have many answered prayers that I was not expecting. When I look back, I see why things are happening the way they are. When I look forward, I get why I received the answered prayers, and I keep moving forward.

We are in this life on a journey, a quest if you will. It is a way to learn, grow, and stretch beyond what we will never give ourselves credit for in life. When the Answered Prayers come, it's because we have gotten too comfortable where we are in life, and it is time to level up. We need to start digging deep into ourselves and give ourselves permission to move on and start living. It's time that we make the hardest decisions for ourselves and stick with what we decide no matter what. Too many times, we rely on what other people think before we tune in to our own knowing.

Look at your life right now; take a moment to go through all the storms you survived. You have learned so much about yourself, now wear that knowledge proudly and take control of your journey. Make your decisions because you know what's best for you.

As I recover from my surgery, I have had to dig deep down and ask for help. I had to be kind in the moments when I was in the worst of pain. I had to breathe when my patience was running low. I found gratitude in everyone who has been there for me. I did not get caught up in self-pity because of the pain. My situations is temporary but my actions is permanent. I have learned I am a kind, loving soul here on this earth; I have to tell you, I love who I am. I love who I have become. The journey that I have been on has been helping me peel back all the layers of other peoples truth and showing me who I truly am.

My friends have an amazing day. May your day be very eye-opening from your heart and your mind.

Just Rita Real Talk

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Speed...YOUR SPEED!!!

1/16/2020

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Good afternoon my friends, I hope you are all finding yourselves well.
I came across this inspiration today, and I felt the need to share it with you.

Have you ever found yourself defending who you are or what you do for a living when it is no one person business? I have lately. I find it to be very annoying.

I work full-time, along with creating and building my spiritual business. I also have been dealing with a severe knee issue for the past three months. I have worked both my job and my business through all of it. However, I had a knee replacement last week, and I seem to have a few people telling me how to run my business or if I am still in business at all. It is crazy to me how people will say whatever they feel like without realizing what they are saying to me.

One thing I have realized about this quote is that; no matter how fast or slow you go, it's your speed, your business, your life — no one else's. Too many people either give up on themselves because they listen to the nonsense of others. I have found myself defending my recovery and explaining what I have done with my business to prepare for the surgery.

When you keep your speed and keep moving forward, you are doing fabulous. Whatever you are recovering from, don't let anyone tell you you should be over it by now. People are not you, and it truly is no one person business how you live or what you do.

I didn't want this to turn into a rant, but it has. I am someone who has been experiencing a tremendous amount of pain for the past few months, and it amazes me the unsolicited advice I keep getting to get my business going and get over it about my knee.

I don't complain hardly at all, honestly, who will really listen. I don't really ask for help because, with some people, you will owe them. But yet, I still manage to find people who are not busy enough moving forward in their own life to advise me on mine.

Block out the people who are telling you what to do without asking for their opinion. Use the gift God gave you, intuition, and start listening to what your intuition is telling you about your own life. Keep moving forward in your life, no matter how many little steps it takes, how many breaks you take. Moving forward is always moving forward. Even when a spider is spinning her web, she never goes backward, always forward in different directions.

Live your truth, no one else's.

Just Rita Real Talk

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Realize you are AMAZING!!!

12/17/2019

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Good afternoon my friends...I hope you are all finding yourselves well.

Yesterday as I was going through my Facebook page, I came across all of these past inspirations I have shared over the years. Each one that I read brought tears to my eyes, good tears.

We spend so much time beating ourselves up, or measuring our worth to someone else's, we don't realize how amazing we are. I found myself going through my memories and realized that I have been so wrapped up in what I am doing, I forgot how far I have come.

This year for me has been very busy accomplishing dreams I have had for many years. I realized how much I have actually done this year and came out on top when some did not want me to succeed. It is amazing how I stood tall and strong not engaging in drama, but taking the hits, learning and growing. I found myself so proud of whom I have become, instead of wishing I would have been better.

This time of year is the perfect time to reflect and let it all go, so we can start a new year. We are ending a decade this December 31, 2019 and starting a new decade January 1, 2020. Wouldn't it be the perfect time to realize how amazing you have been in these past ten years; reflecting on all that you have done not only this year, but the past ten years. Can you imagine what you could do in the next ten years with all you the knowledge and confidence you have gained. There are no limits to what you or I can do in our lives.

My friends, I encourage you to write all that you have done this year along with the past ten years. Really see who you truly are and start to make plans for the next ten years. Tuck away what you wrote, and periodically take it out to see where you are at; you will surprise yourself with how capable you are to do anything you set your mind to.

Love Just Rita Real Talk

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Don't be afraid to show your emotions...

12/12/2019

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Good afternoon my friends...it has been way too long since I have last blogged; it is time to get my writing on. I have missed you all so much and I find myself longing to get back to spreading my wisdom and positivity.

I came across this inspiration today on Facebook and thought it would be great to share as we are in full swing with the holidays. We find most times that emotions are running high and we try to be more than we are to please others. We burden ourselves with responsibility that is not all ours just to make things perfect for all. Many tears fall at this time of year, some good and some not so good.

The past six months have been the most wonderful time of my life and the most difficult time of my life. I have grown in ways that I could have never imagined for myself, and tears have been shed for all of it.

This year I have met the most wonderful man I could have ever imagined myself to be blessed with. I have written my book and had it published. I am blessed to find out I will be a grandmother in July 2020. I have also had to deal with friendships ending and family being removed from my life. It has been a year of tremendous growth that I would not change and I am so grateful for.

Have you heard people telling you to "stop crying", or to "grow up", "quit being a baby", my favorite "quit being so sensitive". Most times the ones who make us cry are the ones who are telling us to get over it. When we have emotions and we do not allow them to come up or be expressed, it causes a lot of unhealthy living. We either blow up at people, turn the anguish inside ourselves and cause more stress.

During the holiday's it is always best to stay clear from any drama you can. You don't have to participate in every conversation or say yes to every invite that comes your way. Make sure you learn how to say NO and only say Yes to what you really want. When there is trouble around, do yourself a favor and walk the other way. There is no reason to get involved in anything that does not really have anything to do with you.

Saying that, if you are involved in any drama, allow your emotions to flow. If you have something to say, make sure you say it from a place of love and not anger. Don't say anything you will regret later. Once it's said, you can't take it back. Don't be afraid to let others see you vulnerable. Sometimes when we show our emotions powerfully, we are also teaching others it's okay for them to do the same. We are all teachers and students to each other.

Let yourself cry. Men, you need to give yourself permission to cry as well. This world would be a better place if we could all be honest with how we feel and what we are dealing with.

I am going to start writing more often. I look forward to hearing from all of you. Have an amazing day!!!

Just Rita Real Talk

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At Your Weakest You are Stronger Than Them...

8/30/2019

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Good morning my friends...I hope you are all finding yourselves well this beautiful morning.

I came across this inspiration on Facebook today and completely fell in love with it. I have found myself dealing with a lot this past month and had allowed myself to feel the emotions of it all. I found myself getting hit from all different directions all at once, I had no idea what was really happening.

I also found myself going through the emotions; being with everything that has been happening in my own quiet little way. I cried, screamed, yelled, went within and slept; most of all I decided I was stronger than the forces that were coming at me.

I processed what I needed, controlled my behavior and allowed others to do whatever they felt they needed to do. I did not respond, carry on, threaten or humiliate anyone. I did what I needed for my own wellbeing. What is amazing about that, no matter what was happening, I released the emotion and rose above the drama.

Can you imagine going through the tough times of your life and rising above. Not allowing anyone to put you in a situation that would allow you to stoop to the other persons level. This is what allows us to become stronger than we know our selves to be. What's important is to know that allowing yourself to go through the emotions, helps you to release the pent-up energy that will eventually cause you more pain. The stuck energy will cause you to say or do things that you will later regret.

When you do not react to a situation, go through the emotions, your response will allow you to become better and stronger than you were before. You will rise above and not allow anyone to take your strength. It does not matter who the offender is, what matters is who you are through it all, and who you are when it passes. Everything is temporary, this too shall pass.

The seasons are changing, pressure is on, and behaviors may be running high; remember who you are and where you are headed. Don't fall into the traps of people trying to keep you where they are at.

Have an amazing weekend my friends...Just Rita Real Talk

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August 28th, 2019

8/28/2019

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Good morning my friends...it has been a long time since I last blogged. This summer has been one of the most exciting summers I have ever had. It's now ending, and I am looking forward to a wonderful Fall season.

Have you ever stopped to think about how magical your life is when you are grateful for everything that has happened in your life? I have been looking at all the amazing things that has occurred this summer for me, and I realize that my life has been an amazing roller coaster ride.

I am so grateful for the wonderful man who has come into my life this spring. I look at all that I have been through in my life regarding marriage and relationships, and I realize how grateful I am for him. I have learned so much in my life, and when he showed up, I found myself ready to receive him. I also found myself scared at the same time. What if I mess it up, or what if he finds out I am not perfect? It's the stuff that can sabotage what it is you are working so hard to achieve.

Today I came across this inspiration, and it made me stop and think about how blessed I am to have everything and everyone in my life. Sometimes we get caught up in the complaints and fears that we miss all the wonderful things that are all around us.

This summer I am so grateful to have met so many amazing people who are changing my life. I am grateful that I went to Italy and had the time of my life. I am grateful that I have written my first book, it was published and is being sold on Amazon. I am grateful that the seasons are changing, and this year is one of my best years yet. I am grateful for all the opportunities that have come my way and keep making their way towards me. I am grateful that I am healthier than I have ever been. I am also grateful for all the things that were not so pleasant this year. I am grateful for every single experience I have endured this year. Everything has made me who I am, and I am so grateful for all of it.

What is it that you are grateful for? What is going on in your life where all you must do is step back and be grateful? When we start to look at everything from a different perspective, we get to see the lesson and the miracles all at once.

Keep Gratitude in your Heart, Soul and Mind. Life will be so much sweeter when you do.

Just Rita Real Talk

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You are the butterfly...You are the magic!!

6/26/2019

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Good morning my friends...I hope you are all finding yourselves well.

This inspiration is amazing. We never take the moments to realize how we have come through the darkness to make our world wonderful. We always plug away complaining or crying about how tough things are, but when we are on the other side we don't realize that it was us that transformed to make our situations different.

We all transform into butterflies many times in our lives. It is time that we stop to realize that it is us who goes within to pull the beauty out of ourselves so we can keep moving forward.

Have you ever wondered how you got through the things that you have? Have you ever stopped to think that there was a period of time where you had to go within and really search for the strength to keep going, only to find that you were the magic the whole time?

We are all butterflies in our lives. Life allows us to shine beautifully all the time, but we never notice our own beauty. We never realize that it was our hard work that turned us into the magical creature we truly are.

Start to pay attention to the wonderful things you have been through. Look at what it is that you did to make everything change in your life. You will start to see how magnificent you really are. The beauty inside you shines brighter than anything else. We are so magical; it would be great if we actually realized it.

Have an amazing day my butterflies.

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What you resist will persist...but don't get lost in it.

6/12/2019

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Good afternoon my friends. I hope you are finding yourselves well on this beautiful Wednesday afternoon.

I came across this inspiration today and it left me remembering how I used to be in life. I was remembering how I would stay stuck in my story of what happened to me, and get so angry that it would leave me feeling lost and incomplete. I would blame my problems on everyone without taking responsibility for my own actions.

When I started to really look at where my life was headed, I was not happy. I hit road block after road block. I thought the world was literally against me for whatever it was that I did. I always felt like punishments were always being doled out to me. It was not a good life to live.

One of the most precious days of my life was a mentor of mine telling me to pull my head out of my ass. She said "Nothing is happening to me, it is all happening for me." I didn't understand what she was saying. She had no idea what I had been through and was still going through. I thought it was so unfair to be judged that way. Yes, my feathers were ruffled for sure and my mentor knew it. However, she also explained to me why everything was actually happening for me instead of to me.

Everything that I had ever been through in my life was all for learning so I can be powerful in my life. She made me really think about it before I could even say a word. She had me read a couple of books so I understood exactly where she was coming from. One book was the "Prayer of Jabez", a book that allowed for me to ask for what I wanted. All I had to do is love myself enough to realize that no matter what has happened in my life, I have always been receiving wisdom through experience. The other book was "The Four Agreements", now that was a book that allowed me to dive right into self-development. I could not get enough. Everything started to make sense to me; not right away, but eventually. I was able to see all the lessons I had to go through in life, so I could be the person I am today. Everything I had ever gone through was not for nothing, even thou I did not understand it at the time, I look at my life now and what I do, I would never change a thing.

I was able to learn that everything has some sort of purpose. How we deal with it will allow us to suffer or not, we always have a choice. I had chosen a life of suffering until my mentor helped me see that there are always choices. What I choose is my responsibility no matter what. I can suffer or not; I had to choose. Eventually I chose not to suffer and my life started to change.

I look at everything I have been through, all the knowledge I have gained through it all. I can help so many people because of all the suffering I have been through in my life. I chose my life. I had to be responsible for all my decisions. When I was able to acknowledge and be responsible, life got so much easier. I began to learn faster, and get rewarded in ways I never knew I actually deserved. I am so grateful for my entire life.

Look at your life. What is it that you are holding on to that you are lost in the emotions? Start to look at different perspectives as to why you went through something. There is always something for us to learn and teach. It all depends when we decide to stop the blame game and take responsibility of our actions. I get things actually happen to us, some out of our control, but even still find the lesson. You will be grateful that you did.

Just Rita Real Talk

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Feed Yourself The Love You Need...See What Happens!

6/5/2019

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Good morning my friends...I hope you are all finding yourselves well today. It's a beautiful day, the sun is shining and hopefully the rain stays away for a bit.

Have you ever stopped and thought about how you think and talk? Have you ever noticed how you react to things instead of responding to them in a different way? Have you ever noticed how much you attract the stuff into your life that you don't want?

When I think about those questions, I am looking at my life and who I am being in the moments that matter. I used to be someone who would agree with someone else's attitude and draw that energy into mine. You know what I am talking about; the ones who say nothing good happens to them, or if it will happen it will happen to them. Then I would start to notice that I would start to have crappy things happen to me.

One of the hardest things I had to learn was changing my language and how I talked to myself. When I agreed with someone's negative attitude, I would notice the same things happening to me. When I started to say to myself, "that may be true for you, but it is not true for me" I would change the way things were happening around me. I would notice that their energy was not leaking into mine. I also noticed how much happier I was becoming.

When you start to really pay attention to what you think and say, and you start to change your behavior; your whole world will change very quickly. I have been practicing this new way of being for the past couple of years. I have to say the more I see everything from a different perspective; I am not suffering in my life. I find that my world is becoming what I have always desired. I attract the people in my life who will keep my vibration high. I attract the love that I have always been longing for my entire life.

One thing that has really come into my life is love. As I have really started to say loving kind things to myself and really believe it, I have been able to attract the kind of love I have always desired. I have received the most beautiful man into my life, because he matches the love I have for myself. It's as if God place the most precious gift right in front of me. I am at a place in my life where I now only speak love into me, and I have received someone in my life that is showing me what true love is. I have never experienced love from someone as I am with this amazing man. When I brought my son into this world that was the first time I experienced; a mother's love. I have two very special men in my life that are showing me things about love I never knew could be possible.

When you start to look at everything in your life from a different perspective and see the lesson in all of it...you get to receive gifts you never would have imagined. I am so grateful at this time in my life. The world that is swirling around me is amazing and I would never change a thing in my life.

Take a look at how you think and speak, along with looking at a situation that is going on in your life. Where can you make some changes so you can be experiencing the very best?

Have an amazing day my friends.

Just Rita Real Talk

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I have been through a lot in my life just as everyone else; I have found that what I have gone through has always been for my highest good. There is not a thing that I would change in my life; I would keep the good, the bad, and the ugly.

Sharing my lessons with you helps me to be the best version of myself. What I have learned, I share so you are the best version of yourself.

When we stand together we are strong and tall making a more confident and loving world. We are forgiving our past and embracing all that is learned. We then are teaching our children to be human and the best version of themselves.

Rita Owen

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