Allowing new beginnings to come into your life is not always the easiest thing to do. As we start to make changes, we allow ourselves to become vulnerable. We start to project what it is we are up to too the world. It is a very scary time.
When we take that step, we also have an expectation of how we want things to go. We see it in our minds eye so we can create what it is we want. Sometimes we get so fixated on the creation of how it should look, along with how it should go; we miss out in the journey.
I have been doing a lot of new things in my life these days. I am allowing myself to date, along with having my book published, and really creating my business. I have been taking the steps to walk into the unknown and keep moving forward. it has been scary but very rewarding at the same time. Although, I have found my expectations are very strong.
This morning I was finishing up some details on my book and I realized maybe this is not such a good idea. I have reread my book over and over; I continually make little changes so it would be perfect. My publisher started to message me while I was working. I told her I was rereading it again, that I will get my book back to her this afternoon. I thought that she would say "ok" and that would be the end of the conversation. Not the case.
Dolly, my publisher was asking me some questions, as I answered her honestly. I told her I was very nervous, that I have been putting a lot of pressure and expectation on myself. She told me to stop, that it will be great, and I need to be my number one fan. I am my number one fan, however as I am truly creating the life, I have always dreamed for myself, I am becoming terrified and allowing myself to get distracted.
it amazes me how often I can still fall in to old patterns when I know I am doing great things. It's a form of self-sabotage I am doing to myself. If I keep rereading and rewriting, it will never be done. In reality it will never be published, and I will never be able to reach the people who really need my help. I am stepping into my greatness and power so I can be of service to many people who need it. When I start to really see how my dreams are coming true, I start to test myself to see if I am really ready. It's Crazy!!!
When we put expectations on ourselves, it's true, we then are creating resentments to happen, we start to have this huge idea of what it should be, and honestly it shouldn't be any way. It should be exactly as it is. I am finding I have been comparing myself to other people, authors, writers. Who am I to do this? The answer, who am I not to do this?
I am doing it my way, my words, my ideas...how it flows so it shall be. Look at your life, where are your expectations? Are they making you miserable? Or, are they making you happy and successful? I have been making myself a little miserable...I had to let it go and just send my book. However, it happens, that's how it shall be.
Take this time to reflect on yourself. What is it that you are expecting of yourself and others? Have you set the bar too high for anyone to touch, or are you right where you need to be? Think about, figure it out and start living.
Just Rita Real Talk