I came across this inspiration today on Facebook and thought it would be great to share as we are in full swing with the holidays. We find most times that emotions are running high and we try to be more than we are to please others. We burden ourselves with responsibility that is not all ours just to make things perfect for all. Many tears fall at this time of year, some good and some not so good.
The past six months have been the most wonderful time of my life and the most difficult time of my life. I have grown in ways that I could have never imagined for myself, and tears have been shed for all of it.
This year I have met the most wonderful man I could have ever imagined myself to be blessed with. I have written my book and had it published. I am blessed to find out I will be a grandmother in July 2020. I have also had to deal with friendships ending and family being removed from my life. It has been a year of tremendous growth that I would not change and I am so grateful for.
Have you heard people telling you to "stop crying", or to "grow up", "quit being a baby", my favorite "quit being so sensitive". Most times the ones who make us cry are the ones who are telling us to get over it. When we have emotions and we do not allow them to come up or be expressed, it causes a lot of unhealthy living. We either blow up at people, turn the anguish inside ourselves and cause more stress.
During the holiday's it is always best to stay clear from any drama you can. You don't have to participate in every conversation or say yes to every invite that comes your way. Make sure you learn how to say NO and only say Yes to what you really want. When there is trouble around, do yourself a favor and walk the other way. There is no reason to get involved in anything that does not really have anything to do with you.
Saying that, if you are involved in any drama, allow your emotions to flow. If you have something to say, make sure you say it from a place of love and not anger. Don't say anything you will regret later. Once it's said, you can't take it back. Don't be afraid to let others see you vulnerable. Sometimes when we show our emotions powerfully, we are also teaching others it's okay for them to do the same. We are all teachers and students to each other.
Let yourself cry. Men, you need to give yourself permission to cry as well. This world would be a better place if we could all be honest with how we feel and what we are dealing with.
I am going to start writing more often. I look forward to hearing from all of you. Have an amazing day!!!
Just Rita Real Talk